CONSIDERATIONS
1.She calls me everyday
2.She will ask my friend who is she with, most likely to see if I'm around
3. One time at a party before I told her I liked her, she kinda grinding her private on my leg, and got really close, but I did not react to it.
3.Whenever I'm with a guy, she finds another guy to make me jealous
I told my friend who has a boyfriend that I liked her, she then said I never looked at you in that way, and that she would get back to me, a week later she calls me, and says she needs to talk to me. We meet up, and she asked '; Do you serious like me,'; I reply yes, and she goes into a series of statements such as You know I have a boyfriend, how do you think it's going to work? Do you think we are going to be more than friends, and last if it dosen't work out I still want to be your friend...I replied we are just going to take that risk...I still at this time was not sure if this girl is using me or if she really likes me, because she didn't directly say that she did, although she said she is willing to give it a try...hmmm should I settle for that answer??? also I had asked her to give her a massage a few days later, which she rejected it...what does that mean is this girl using me, or does she really like me....after she rejected me...I stopped talking to her....keep in mind my friend is still her friend...so they talk..which she will bring up my name in there conversations...also keep in my she also knows that my other friend who is also her other friend has hooked up earlier this year...So DOES SHE LIKE M?E..IS SHE USING ME?...IS SHE PLAYING HARD TO GET? WHAT THE HELL...IT'S LIKE SHE CALLS MY FRIEND NOW FREQUENTLY, AND SOMETIMES I'M WITH MY FRIEND AND SHE MIGHT KNOW IT...AND END UP CALLING HER LIKE THREE TIMES WITHIN 3 HOURS..ASKING HER WHO SHE IS WITH..DOES MY BI-SEXUAL FRIEND REALLY LIKE ME?
I don't know. She sounds like she's playing with you. She may be bi-curious, but I definitely would move on. She doesn't sound secure in herself enough that even if something did happen, that it would continue. Also, I would not find the mind games attractive if I were you.DOES MY BI-SEXUAL FRIEND REALLY LIKE ME?
i think that all girls grind with friends, and it doesnt mean anything.. some friends call eachother everyday, ect.. i think she just sees you as a friend.. im sorry.
No, I personally think that your friend does not have an interest in you. But then again, I would need to know more details. Perhaps you should ask her again when things die down.
YES she likes you. NO I dont think she's using u I think she is scared of the reactions of other ppl.
girl on girl action is cool
Friday, August 20, 2010
Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
Me and my boyfriend have been living together for about a year and a half now. we've just moved into our own place about five months ago. When we first started dating he was really sweet we would go out to eat somewhere or to the movies or to the park or just ride around town or whatever. He made sure we always did something together at least once or twice a week. Now we never go anywhere. Im always stuck in the house while he's at work or out at the basketball court and I'm bored. When I ask him can we go out to eat he says we don't have the money to do that. So I ask well can we go to the park and spend some time together away from the house. he says he's tired from work. so i say ok. ill wait a week or two then i'll ask again. it's the same answer. So one day i asked him why we don't do the things we use to do and he says because we don't have the money. So I tell him it doesn't take money to go out somewhere and spend time with each other away from the house. He says uh gas money. So I say well it takes gas money to go to the basketball court and he says its right around the corner. So i say well the park is right around the corner too. He says well i'm tired tonight so i'll take you tomorrow so tomorrow comes and he acts like he forgets and that he has so much on his mind. Not only does he not spend time with me anymore but he doesn't like to handle his own business he'll either send me his mom or his sister to do it and i'm like how old are you? why don't you handle your own business? then he just gets mad and says well i wont ask you anymore. he never cleans up after his self i'm always the one who's doing it or his mom or sister. Then when i tell him about it he says that i leave messes too and i say yeah but who cleans them up? I do! and who cleans up yours? I do! then he gets mad and says no you don't i clean up my own mess. which is a total lie because hes never at home. hes either at work at the basketball court sleep or playing video games. I ask him does he love me anymore and he says he does and when i cry about it he says he'll do better and he does for a couple weeks then its back to the same way. When these things come up and his sister has to clean after him or do his business she looks at me and tells me your man is sorry. that's my brother but he is sorry and lazy. he acts like he can't do anything his self I always cook clean wash and run errands. i know i don't pay the bills and all that true enough. but that doesnt excuse the fact that he should help out too does it? Everybody is having hard times now except rich people abd everybody is having trouble making ends meet probably and everybody is tired from work. but i know people that work longer hours than he does and they still come home and handle business. basicly if its something he wants to do he has the money and the energy to do it but if its something i want to do he doesn't. What am I suppose to do with that? His mom says the same thing. I love him with all my heart and he loves me but i think hes sorry and lazy too. Hes very stubborn and doesn't want to listen to me when I tell him stuff. So what should I do? I don't know what to say to him anymore. I feel like giving him a taste of his own medicine so he'll see how i feel when he does it to me. But I know that's probably taking the childish route.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
Lol- that sounds like my husband! You just can't change people...I mean I guess he tries for a while to shut you up, but in the end he reverts and I don't think ';giving him a taste'; of it will help. If he is as hardheaded as he seems, he won't care, because staying the way he is is more important to him than changing for you. Move on before you get hurt more.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
He sounds depressed.
you were in the wrong.
Maybe he needs help. My advise to you is 'never leave your partner especially in a fire'
I think the only thing you are wrong for is staying with him. Once they get in this pattern they never get out. He is reverting back to childhood. Kick him to the curb.
Spend some money on him, take him out for a meal and make him feel wanted instead of mooching off him and not paying any bills.
I appreciate that he is in the wrong over not cleaning up after himself, but coming home from work to face even more work is a terrible feeling.
I imagine he spends his free time playing sport and games to take his mind off the thought of another long day at work.
Living together can create problems too. Often your partner becomes a part of the background because they are always there; the partner becomes a commodity instead of someone to share life with.
Is there anyway you can see less of each other? Perhaps hang out with some of your other friends or get a (second?) job? Maybe even spend the weekends living with your parents? Seeing less of each other will make the time that you do spend together all the more special.
I say u only have one life to live be happy. If he not showin u a good time and makin u happy some other guy will girl.
Maybe giving him a taste of his own medicine is being childish, but he is being totally childish!! Sounds like he's never had to live on his own (away from his mommy %26amp; sister) %26amp; actually do things for himself. I know a guy who is gonna turn out like this %26amp; it just kills me b/c it's only gonna cause him problems.
Understand that the basketball is probably a stress release for him. That's why he does it. Find something you can do together that would be a stress release!
%26amp; why don't you take some initave and plan a night out for you two.
Bottom line, your going to have to sit him down %26amp; just point blank tell him that you are miserable. %26amp; if he doesn't do anything about it, (a sincere apology %26amp; genuine lasting change,) then he the one for you. Be genuine with your feelings and open to compromise.
Wow...we must be living parallel lives lol. I'll bet that before you came into the picture, he had someone clean up after him, cook for him, and take care of everything else. When I met my bf his mom did everything for him. Now I am the one taking care of him. Your bf is comfortable and secure and he is used to being taken care of. You just have to come to terms with it. If ts really bothering you then maybe you should try getting a job or doing community work or something to take you out of the house. For me I know my bf is spoilt but I can't call him lazy considering he goes to work everyday but since I started taking the inititive to go out by myself, more than ever he has started joining me.
Try it.
I guess you're just going to have to play hard ball with him. No sex until he takes you out. I mean, I don't know how you can get the point across other than that. Maybe you should ask a relationship specialist to get him to take you out.
Oh yeah, and next time add some paragraphs to your question.
Put your foot down show him your serious if he dont go out of his way to make you happy then you shouldnt be with him take a break and go hang with the girls have a girls night show him that if he out with guys your going to give him a taste of his own medicine dont cook or clean after him clean after yourself and as it builds up he will realize how much he should appreciate you before he loses you for good. you gotta threatin like that show him that its not ok to do that
i suggest all u can do is really jus be there for him and LISTEN to him. if u keep telling him to do things this way or that way he will get irritated. i understand how annoyin and immature it can be. but slowly he will realize it and learn it too. he has his mom to push him, so don't push him even harder. talk to him and make him understand. guys like these really don't understand..and sometimes its best to leave them alone so they can realize things.
no ur not wrong for thinking that because he is sorry and lazy .......but hes doing what hes doing because ur letting him. you need to put ur foot down tell him that hes making you unhappy and miserably. tell him he not who he was when you first met. and tell him that if he doesn't change you don't no how much longer you two will last together. and if ur a religious person you should pray about it and even if ur not just try it because it Works.
Drop him, he's no good. You did nothing wrong. You may not work, but it isn't just about that, is it? He doesn't have time for you as a couple, which means he doesn't hold your relationship in high priority.
You're nagging him. You might not notice it but I can guarantee that behavior goes hand in hand with it. And honestly in those situations its hard to tell which started first. Honestly, just leave him alone for a week or so and see if his behavior improves. Men tend to start caring when you stop caring.thick hair borrow money
Lol- that sounds like my husband! You just can't change people...I mean I guess he tries for a while to shut you up, but in the end he reverts and I don't think ';giving him a taste'; of it will help. If he is as hardheaded as he seems, he won't care, because staying the way he is is more important to him than changing for you. Move on before you get hurt more.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
He sounds depressed.
you were in the wrong.
Maybe he needs help. My advise to you is 'never leave your partner especially in a fire'
I think the only thing you are wrong for is staying with him. Once they get in this pattern they never get out. He is reverting back to childhood. Kick him to the curb.
Spend some money on him, take him out for a meal and make him feel wanted instead of mooching off him and not paying any bills.
I appreciate that he is in the wrong over not cleaning up after himself, but coming home from work to face even more work is a terrible feeling.
I imagine he spends his free time playing sport and games to take his mind off the thought of another long day at work.
Living together can create problems too. Often your partner becomes a part of the background because they are always there; the partner becomes a commodity instead of someone to share life with.
Is there anyway you can see less of each other? Perhaps hang out with some of your other friends or get a (second?) job? Maybe even spend the weekends living with your parents? Seeing less of each other will make the time that you do spend together all the more special.
I say u only have one life to live be happy. If he not showin u a good time and makin u happy some other guy will girl.
Maybe giving him a taste of his own medicine is being childish, but he is being totally childish!! Sounds like he's never had to live on his own (away from his mommy %26amp; sister) %26amp; actually do things for himself. I know a guy who is gonna turn out like this %26amp; it just kills me b/c it's only gonna cause him problems.
Understand that the basketball is probably a stress release for him. That's why he does it. Find something you can do together that would be a stress release!
%26amp; why don't you take some initave and plan a night out for you two.
Bottom line, your going to have to sit him down %26amp; just point blank tell him that you are miserable. %26amp; if he doesn't do anything about it, (a sincere apology %26amp; genuine lasting change,) then he the one for you. Be genuine with your feelings and open to compromise.
Wow...we must be living parallel lives lol. I'll bet that before you came into the picture, he had someone clean up after him, cook for him, and take care of everything else. When I met my bf his mom did everything for him. Now I am the one taking care of him. Your bf is comfortable and secure and he is used to being taken care of. You just have to come to terms with it. If ts really bothering you then maybe you should try getting a job or doing community work or something to take you out of the house. For me I know my bf is spoilt but I can't call him lazy considering he goes to work everyday but since I started taking the inititive to go out by myself, more than ever he has started joining me.
Try it.
I guess you're just going to have to play hard ball with him. No sex until he takes you out. I mean, I don't know how you can get the point across other than that. Maybe you should ask a relationship specialist to get him to take you out.
Oh yeah, and next time add some paragraphs to your question.
Put your foot down show him your serious if he dont go out of his way to make you happy then you shouldnt be with him take a break and go hang with the girls have a girls night show him that if he out with guys your going to give him a taste of his own medicine dont cook or clean after him clean after yourself and as it builds up he will realize how much he should appreciate you before he loses you for good. you gotta threatin like that show him that its not ok to do that
i suggest all u can do is really jus be there for him and LISTEN to him. if u keep telling him to do things this way or that way he will get irritated. i understand how annoyin and immature it can be. but slowly he will realize it and learn it too. he has his mom to push him, so don't push him even harder. talk to him and make him understand. guys like these really don't understand..and sometimes its best to leave them alone so they can realize things.
no ur not wrong for thinking that because he is sorry and lazy .......but hes doing what hes doing because ur letting him. you need to put ur foot down tell him that hes making you unhappy and miserably. tell him he not who he was when you first met. and tell him that if he doesn't change you don't no how much longer you two will last together. and if ur a religious person you should pray about it and even if ur not just try it because it Works.
Drop him, he's no good. You did nothing wrong. You may not work, but it isn't just about that, is it? He doesn't have time for you as a couple, which means he doesn't hold your relationship in high priority.
You're nagging him. You might not notice it but I can guarantee that behavior goes hand in hand with it. And honestly in those situations its hard to tell which started first. Honestly, just leave him alone for a week or so and see if his behavior improves. Men tend to start caring when you stop caring.
What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I am in high school and i i told her that i was quiet attracted to her. She then said that they thing was she had a boyfriend who i was unaware existed and went to another school. She said she really was flattered. She even tried to continue to talk to me after, like on how things were going and what i was doing still doing at school. I was the one who actually said that i should be going. I mean she was so nice about it, i was feeling happy as well as disappointed about it. The thing is, i really like this girl, i mean i like her alot, i have a huge crush on her. I was wondering if this means no, and no forever? if she really does have a boyfriend (and is not lying) could she possibly be saying maybe later? Also girls do you tell guys you already have a boyfriend when you don't want to make them feel bad? If i find out she was lying, does this mean she really has no interest in me and was just being nice? Is there a chance she is playing hard to get? I should tell you when i did this she was with her friends and i asked to speak with her. When i was talking to her she was in no rush to get back. Does it make a difference if i did it in front of her friends? I am kinda ignorant so i really could use your help.What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
ask her about her boyfriend.. how he is etc?What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I'd say that see likes you (as a friend) and if she doesn't have a boyfriend it means that not at the moment she doesn't want to date you but maybe in the future! Keep on seeing if there is any hope that you two can be together!
If I didn't want to hurt a guys feelings, I might say something like that, so that could be it. But I wouldn't say that I have a boyfriend if I was playing hard to get...
Maybe you should just be straightforward. Most girls admire confidence. When you're talking to her, you should courteously ask how her if when she said no, she meant no forever, or if she didn't have a boyfriend things would be different. Because she may just really have a boyfriend and not want to break up with him for you, because maybe at this point things are going well with him, or she thinks it would be shallow to dump him for you. Encourage her to do whatever makes her happy, and not feel pressured to do anything she doesn't want to do. Tell her that when she's happy, your happy. Just don't push it, be gentle and understanding.
Good Luck,
KT
if its ment to be it will be
ask her about her boyfriend.. how he is etc?What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I'd say that see likes you (as a friend) and if she doesn't have a boyfriend it means that not at the moment she doesn't want to date you but maybe in the future! Keep on seeing if there is any hope that you two can be together!
If I didn't want to hurt a guys feelings, I might say something like that, so that could be it. But I wouldn't say that I have a boyfriend if I was playing hard to get...
Maybe you should just be straightforward. Most girls admire confidence. When you're talking to her, you should courteously ask how her if when she said no, she meant no forever, or if she didn't have a boyfriend things would be different. Because she may just really have a boyfriend and not want to break up with him for you, because maybe at this point things are going well with him, or she thinks it would be shallow to dump him for you. Encourage her to do whatever makes her happy, and not feel pressured to do anything she doesn't want to do. Tell her that when she's happy, your happy. Just don't push it, be gentle and understanding.
Good Luck,
KT
if its ment to be it will be
BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
Okay so me and my best friend have been friends for almost 4 years (we even celebrate the day we met!) I hang out with her everyday and she stays the night everyday, she means everything to me! I adore her to death. But heres the deal. I just recently started seeing this guy, and we're getting kinda serious. I really like him and I know he likes me. We've been hanging out everyday (and I still make time for her!) but, she talked to me yesterday and said if I EVER choose him over her (as hanging out or anything like that) that the friendship was over. I thought she was just playing around and being dramatic. But see my best friend acts REALLY immature, shes a total kid at heart, and my boyfriend is the serious mature type. He thinks shes very annoying and she thinks hes irritating and shes always rolling her eyes at him and ignoring him and then tells me he was being mean? I think shes being VERY immature, and I know when you start to get older you do need to put yourself and your boyfriend first, because thats where your life will be if you want it I guess, and I know me and her won't be BEEEST friends forever, but I want to be great friends forever? and want her as my best friend right now, but I can't keep driving back and forth 5 or 6 times a day to hang out with them both at diff times cause they can't stand each other. This guy is important to me and he means alot to me, but I love her to. I don't wanna lose her over a guy, but I don't wanna lose him over a friendship, because I couldn't dedicate time to him. This is getting to be REALLY hard. If I don't see my BFF EVERY day she gets SO mad at me, but it seems lately even when I do spend the day with her all she does is complain how much she hates so and so and how bad her day was, and she just bitchs and screams and all I wanna do is take her home and be with him.
What can I do to calm her down?? How do I balance out??BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
I think you should sit down and talk to her about how you feel. You sid yourself she is immature and she will grow out of this with age. And if she Truly cares about you as her best friend then she will want you to be happy. So just sit her down ans sad hey..I really like this guy...Your my best friend and always will be...just because i have him and love him doesn't mean he is replacing you....we will have a set day, 2 days whatever ever day same time each week to hang out...(that way she knows your making her a priority as well) I think this will make her feel better. And give it an honest effort. and if this doesn't work then obviously she didn't care about the friendship in the first place
And with him tell him that you know how he feels about her but she is your best friend and your not putting her first but you do have to make time for her a couple days a week and ask him to make an effort to like her.
I hope this helps I had the same problem with my fiance and a friend and they are slowly warming up to each other! =)BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
you have to make time for both, but your BFF needs to cut the ******* cord. you will always be friends but if she is ready to ditch your friendship because you have a BF well... she is way to clingy. maybe see if your BF has any friends she would want to date.
its possible to have more than one friend. but she shouldnt be controling who you talk to or see. that is not the kind of friendship anyone should want to deal with. when she is acting like that it is pushing you away. tell her that.
go jump off a building and land on your head and shoot your best friend especially if its you BFF so make sure you shoot like 30 bullets into your frined then jump
You need to tell her that your life does not revolve around her and that you will have other friends and possibly a husband someday and that he WILL come first.
Too long to read...get to the point
Best thing is to talk to her tell her how you feel I think your friend has some issues that may make her feel insecure about your friendship boyfriends come and go but friends last forever if your friendship is important then find a way to work it out good luck
Eventually, she's going to experience this rejection. Its just a question of when.
I suggest that you tell her off, and continue normally with your boyfriend. If she wants to meet with you on more reasonable terms, that's great - but you have no intention of giving up a romantic life for her.
Her ';me first'; is a loser attitude. Either she loses it, or you lose her.
It's probably not a bad idea to just let her whine and scream and be jealous. She will either get over it, grow up, and learn how to be a good friend without being the center of your universe, or she'll get a lot madder and end the friendship. If she does end the friendship, then you really never meant that much to her in the first place; if that's the case, then you're better off without her.
Some might give kinder, gentler advice but I think everyone involved is old enough to learn how to play nice, share and get along together.
you need to stop using the word forever.
you can pick, either never have a BF and always have a BFF, or vice versa. put her in your spot, tell her you would nag like that.
shes ending a 4 year friendship because your hanging with a dude too? thats immature.
you gotta ditch her, or make all the time for her.
you really need to have a serious conversation with both of them.
you need to let your friend know how important your boyfriend is to you.
and you need to do the same thing with him.
you have to let them know you cant be switching from person to person , if you dont see someone that day talk to on the phone or text them .
if they Truly love you , they will understand.
(:
well if you have a boy friend that doesent like your best friend its kinda doomed to fail. Eather way i can see that it would suck for you but it comes down to would your rather lose your best friend for 4 years or your boy friend for 4 days. I know that you dont want to lose eather of them so find out what your bf and bff have in common and try doing them together maybe if she has a bf try double dates.
Sit down and talk to her. ask her why she doesn't like him. but be nice about it and dont yell at her. that will make things worse. but if that doesnt work be like i understand that you dont like him. and you wont tell me y, but i really do and he really cares about me. thus is something really stupid to be fighting about. i love you and i want to be your best friend for ever. i will make you a deal. i will scedual dates were me and u will just hang out and (name of boyfriend) wont be there.
Uhhh....Well you need to try and make them friends even best friends sit them down talk to them both and tell them that you love them both and want to be with both but they have to help you tell them how hurt you are and if they love you then they will try to get along then try to get your friend a boyfriend too so she wont be left out
you're friend is being totally ridiculous. you need to have talk with her and tell her that you are your own person and you really like this guy. tell her you have a right to be in a relationship if it makes you happy and if she's your real friend she'll accept that and still be your friend (even if you can only hang out with her every other day or even only 2-3 times a week). Tell her that you think that the way she's behaving is selfish and you'll still be her friend if she wants you to be, but you can't put all life and relationships apart from hers on hold just because she wants you to. And if she can't accept that she isn't worth it!
just... talk 2 both of them... stand ure ground .. tell them u love them equally ... n tell ya boyfriend the same... but.. win or if u tell ure friend.. explain 2 her how u feel abt. it... tell her shez ure bestie n he'll never b put 1st but,,,, the BEST thing 2 do is talk 2 them @ the same time.. IT WORKED WITH ME! LOL* hope i helpedd... :) good luck!
It really depends on if you love this guy or not. If you love him and want things to go well between you two then you need to worry more about him. You should sit your friend down and tell her how you feel about him and make it known that he is not going anywhere. Guys want put up with a girl putting her friends before them all the time. Guys don't mind you hanging with your friends but if you get stressed out over picking who to hang with then he gets stressed out. If your friend can't accept the fact that you want to spend more time with him, then that is her loss. She's not a true friend if she can't understand how you feel. That's why people have bestfriends so that they are there for them and understand them. I would never be mad at my bestfriend because she is in love. All I am saying is your bestfriend should never ask you to chose over her or the guy you care about. And honestly it sounds like eaither way you will lose one of them no matter what choice you make. But goodluck and I hope you make a good decision.
What can I do to calm her down?? How do I balance out??BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
I think you should sit down and talk to her about how you feel. You sid yourself she is immature and she will grow out of this with age. And if she Truly cares about you as her best friend then she will want you to be happy. So just sit her down ans sad hey..I really like this guy...Your my best friend and always will be...just because i have him and love him doesn't mean he is replacing you....we will have a set day, 2 days whatever ever day same time each week to hang out...(that way she knows your making her a priority as well) I think this will make her feel better. And give it an honest effort. and if this doesn't work then obviously she didn't care about the friendship in the first place
And with him tell him that you know how he feels about her but she is your best friend and your not putting her first but you do have to make time for her a couple days a week and ask him to make an effort to like her.
I hope this helps I had the same problem with my fiance and a friend and they are slowly warming up to each other! =)BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
you have to make time for both, but your BFF needs to cut the ******* cord. you will always be friends but if she is ready to ditch your friendship because you have a BF well... she is way to clingy. maybe see if your BF has any friends she would want to date.
its possible to have more than one friend. but she shouldnt be controling who you talk to or see. that is not the kind of friendship anyone should want to deal with. when she is acting like that it is pushing you away. tell her that.
go jump off a building and land on your head and shoot your best friend especially if its you BFF so make sure you shoot like 30 bullets into your frined then jump
You need to tell her that your life does not revolve around her and that you will have other friends and possibly a husband someday and that he WILL come first.
Too long to read...get to the point
Best thing is to talk to her tell her how you feel I think your friend has some issues that may make her feel insecure about your friendship boyfriends come and go but friends last forever if your friendship is important then find a way to work it out good luck
Eventually, she's going to experience this rejection. Its just a question of when.
I suggest that you tell her off, and continue normally with your boyfriend. If she wants to meet with you on more reasonable terms, that's great - but you have no intention of giving up a romantic life for her.
Her ';me first'; is a loser attitude. Either she loses it, or you lose her.
It's probably not a bad idea to just let her whine and scream and be jealous. She will either get over it, grow up, and learn how to be a good friend without being the center of your universe, or she'll get a lot madder and end the friendship. If she does end the friendship, then you really never meant that much to her in the first place; if that's the case, then you're better off without her.
Some might give kinder, gentler advice but I think everyone involved is old enough to learn how to play nice, share and get along together.
you need to stop using the word forever.
you can pick, either never have a BF and always have a BFF, or vice versa. put her in your spot, tell her you would nag like that.
shes ending a 4 year friendship because your hanging with a dude too? thats immature.
you gotta ditch her, or make all the time for her.
you really need to have a serious conversation with both of them.
you need to let your friend know how important your boyfriend is to you.
and you need to do the same thing with him.
you have to let them know you cant be switching from person to person , if you dont see someone that day talk to on the phone or text them .
if they Truly love you , they will understand.
(:
well if you have a boy friend that doesent like your best friend its kinda doomed to fail. Eather way i can see that it would suck for you but it comes down to would your rather lose your best friend for 4 years or your boy friend for 4 days. I know that you dont want to lose eather of them so find out what your bf and bff have in common and try doing them together maybe if she has a bf try double dates.
Sit down and talk to her. ask her why she doesn't like him. but be nice about it and dont yell at her. that will make things worse. but if that doesnt work be like i understand that you dont like him. and you wont tell me y, but i really do and he really cares about me. thus is something really stupid to be fighting about. i love you and i want to be your best friend for ever. i will make you a deal. i will scedual dates were me and u will just hang out and (name of boyfriend) wont be there.
Uhhh....Well you need to try and make them friends even best friends sit them down talk to them both and tell them that you love them both and want to be with both but they have to help you tell them how hurt you are and if they love you then they will try to get along then try to get your friend a boyfriend too so she wont be left out
you're friend is being totally ridiculous. you need to have talk with her and tell her that you are your own person and you really like this guy. tell her you have a right to be in a relationship if it makes you happy and if she's your real friend she'll accept that and still be your friend (even if you can only hang out with her every other day or even only 2-3 times a week). Tell her that you think that the way she's behaving is selfish and you'll still be her friend if she wants you to be, but you can't put all life and relationships apart from hers on hold just because she wants you to. And if she can't accept that she isn't worth it!
just... talk 2 both of them... stand ure ground .. tell them u love them equally ... n tell ya boyfriend the same... but.. win or if u tell ure friend.. explain 2 her how u feel abt. it... tell her shez ure bestie n he'll never b put 1st but,,,, the BEST thing 2 do is talk 2 them @ the same time.. IT WORKED WITH ME! LOL* hope i helpedd... :) good luck!
It really depends on if you love this guy or not. If you love him and want things to go well between you two then you need to worry more about him. You should sit your friend down and tell her how you feel about him and make it known that he is not going anywhere. Guys want put up with a girl putting her friends before them all the time. Guys don't mind you hanging with your friends but if you get stressed out over picking who to hang with then he gets stressed out. If your friend can't accept the fact that you want to spend more time with him, then that is her loss. She's not a true friend if she can't understand how you feel. That's why people have bestfriends so that they are there for them and understand them. I would never be mad at my bestfriend because she is in love. All I am saying is your bestfriend should never ask you to chose over her or the guy you care about. And honestly it sounds like eaither way you will lose one of them no matter what choice you make. But goodluck and I hope you make a good decision.
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
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Has my girlfriend lost interest in me?
ok im going to be completely honest so listen up. i dont even remember how i met this girl, but as soon as we met we instantly ';clicked'; she liked me and i liked her, the problem was she had a boyfriend. he lived about 1-3 hour drive away. we both knew we liked each other and i was kind of playing hard to get and it was working, or she just liked me anyways. we both knew we liked each other but niether of us had said anything, we hugged, cuddled, and held hands alot. finally she asked me (not strait up, she asked why i would be like that to her) and i told her i liked her. immediatly she told me she liked me back, 2-3 days later she broke up with her boyfriend, then the next day i asked her out. (that would be yesterday). as you all know yesterday was halloween, we met up at a beach at dark, with another couple,, and split up, me and her, and the other couple. we made out 2 times, and she gave me a hickie on my neck. but now when i talk to her on myspace she answers in short phrases like ';ya'; or ';lol oh'; or ';ok'; it gets annoying after a while.
NOTE: i asked her what was wrong because she had been not talking, she said nothing she was ok.
SHE WAS MORE INTIMATE VERBALLY (not physically hehe) BEFORE WE STARTED GOING OUT
whats her deal?
does she still like me?
has she lost interest after one freakin day?
did she REALLY break up with her boyfriend?
help me.
give me any advice you can please..
id really appreciate it, this is the most important question ive ever askedHas my girlfriend lost interest?
i think she likes u but she still has feelings for her boyfriend. u have to give her time. she is probably still recovering n she doesnt want u to feel bad. or maybe she doesnt want u to no cuz she likes both of u. she likes her bf but she doesnt want to lose u
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
It looks like your girl doesn't rate your relationship as important as you do. And yes, it seems like she lost interest but it is too early to panic yet. First you act hard to get, and next thing you won't let her breath. Give her some space. You said you made out, there is a possibility you failed to fill her ex's shoe.
the best thing to do is move on. Imagine a box, put all your feelings for her in a box and then send the box out to sea.
Now take a deep breath, smell that - its called reality. What are you going to do with the rest of your life?
I dont think she broke up with her bf and now she feels guilty for going out with you.I think she is confused and doesnt know what to do.
if she lost intrest she would break up with u.
maybe she was busy while she was online. give it a few days, don't contact her, and then maybe call her or go see her and see what you think then
Ya i think she probally didnt break up with her boyfriend and is now feeling bad that she cheated on him with you and is being weird with you like nothing ever happened. She didn't reliaze it till she actually did something more serious.
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hope this helped.
Has my girlfriend lost interest in me?
ok im going to be completely honest so listen up. i dont even remember how i met this girl, but as soon as we met we instantly ';clicked'; she liked me and i liked her, the problem was she had a boyfriend. he lived about 1-3 hour drive away. we both knew we liked each other and i was kind of playing hard to get and it was working, or she just liked me anyways. we both knew we liked each other but niether of us had said anything, we hugged, cuddled, and held hands alot. finally she asked me (not strait up, she asked why i would be like that to her) and i told her i liked her. immediatly she told me she liked me back, 2-3 days later she broke up with her boyfriend, then the next day i asked her out. (that would be yesterday). as you all know yesterday was halloween, we met up at a beach at dark, with another couple,, and split up, me and her, and the other couple. we made out 2 times, and she gave me a hickie on my neck. but now when i talk to her on myspace she answers in short phrases like ';ya'; or ';lol oh'; or ';ok'; it gets annoying after a while.
NOTE: i asked her what was wrong because she had been not talking, she said nothing she was ok.
SHE WAS MORE INTIMATE VERBALLY (not physically hehe) BEFORE WE STARTED GOING OUT
whats her deal?
does she still like me?
has she lost interest after one freakin day?
did she REALLY break up with her boyfriend?
help me.
give me any advice you can please..
id really appreciate it, this is the most important question ive ever askedHas my girlfriend lost interest?
i think she likes u but she still has feelings for her boyfriend. u have to give her time. she is probably still recovering n she doesnt want u to feel bad. or maybe she doesnt want u to no cuz she likes both of u. she likes her bf but she doesnt want to lose u
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
It looks like your girl doesn't rate your relationship as important as you do. And yes, it seems like she lost interest but it is too early to panic yet. First you act hard to get, and next thing you won't let her breath. Give her some space. You said you made out, there is a possibility you failed to fill her ex's shoe.
the best thing to do is move on. Imagine a box, put all your feelings for her in a box and then send the box out to sea.
Now take a deep breath, smell that - its called reality. What are you going to do with the rest of your life?
I dont think she broke up with her bf and now she feels guilty for going out with you.I think she is confused and doesnt know what to do.
if she lost intrest she would break up with u.
maybe she was busy while she was online. give it a few days, don't contact her, and then maybe call her or go see her and see what you think then
Ya i think she probally didnt break up with her boyfriend and is now feeling bad that she cheated on him with you and is being weird with you like nothing ever happened. She didn't reliaze it till she actually did something more serious.
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hope this helped.
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
First, his roommate is a guy. Well, everytime he comes to see me, he has his roommate with him. We would play games and when it got late they would leave. But, I'll ask my bf to stay and let your rm go by himself. But the rm always says, ';Nooooo';. Then my bf would say, ';I like sleeping in my own bed.'; Once I told his rm to clean up his mess b4 leaving and my bf said i was being rude. but I said, '; you didn't say that when he made me clean up at your house.'; after that he wouldn't call me untill I apologed to his roommate so I said what about my apology? (From when his roommate yelled in my face and called me stupid. I cried at their house in front of them) My feelings were hurt, and he said, ';F*** yo feelings.'; His roommate never gives him the phone or tells him i called. And he put me in a choke hold once that really hurt ( I teared up) but my bf said the rm was only playing.'; But how! He wasn't smiling and he was jerking me pretty hard. I need help.I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
well you ARE a girl right? well i am and i don't think your bf is cheating on you with a guy BUT this is the important part... he isn't cheating on you he probably is just putting his other relationships in front of you guy's relationships. and for that reason you should stop going out with him. because you are his gf and should put you in front of his other relationshipsI think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
You should dump you so-called boyfriend! He never helps you and lets his rm walk all over you! And his rm should never be able to get you in a choke hold! That is so wrong! Just dump the boyfriend and tell him ';Go back to your room mate a$$h@le!!!'; That should clear up the problem. He's definitely more into him than you anyway. :(
well you ARE a girl right? well i am and i don't think your bf is cheating on you with a guy BUT this is the important part... he isn't cheating on you he probably is just putting his other relationships in front of you guy's relationships. and for that reason you should stop going out with him. because you are his gf and should put you in front of his other relationshipsI think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
You should dump you so-called boyfriend! He never helps you and lets his rm walk all over you! And his rm should never be able to get you in a choke hold! That is so wrong! Just dump the boyfriend and tell him ';Go back to your room mate a$$h@le!!!'; That should clear up the problem. He's definitely more into him than you anyway. :(
Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
I'm in highschool. Don't even tell me I'm too young to be in love. Cause I've felt love. I've had 5 boyfriends since 7th grade and I'm in my junior year right now, so I've bided my time quite well. All of these boyfriends have lasted 4 months to a year. I cared for all of them. Only loved one. Now there's a new guy. He's the catch of the century. Personality, gymnast, drumline major, pianist, gorgeous, smile and eyes that could stun you in your tracks. It was a miracle the first time he held me and kissed me because I never dreamed he'd have any kind of feelings for me. We talked about everything significant in our lives and he looked at me like nothing else in the world mattered and picked me up and twirled me around in the movies, and held me when I was cold and we sorta swayed like we were dancing, and talked about everything and it was the most perfect night of my life. The next day, and the past few weeks for that matter, it was a different story. He flashes me a smile in the hall sometimes and gives me a hug on the rarest occasion. We've hung out three times since then. First time, at lunch, we were alone on the basement starewell of the school. He kissed me by the end again, confusing me all over again, but barely said goodbye when the bell rang. Second time, he invited me to his house. We watched Robin Hood Prince of Thieves because he loved the music in it. Cuddled on his bed. He gave me that look again, played with my hair, kissed me, made out with me, held me, but tried to unbutton my pants three times when I told him no (I've had sex before, and i was more than willing to do it with him, but I wanted commitment first). But he finally stopped and just held me and kissed me and played with my hair and looked into my eyes. Next day he acts the same, like we barely know eachother more than a passing glance and occasional smile. Third time was today. I told him I wanted to hear him play Mad World for me on the piano and we sat in the band room all of lunch just talking and him playing me piano music. He hugged me, but never looked in my eyes unless I said something weird, and didn't seem at all interested in anything about me anymore, because it felt like i was interrogating him just to keep a conversation going. Then the bell rang and he said he was going to the drum room and got up and walked off with an awkward wave over his shoulder. Biggest mixed signals I've ever experienced. I'm trying to teach myself piano and how to do a backflip so i can meet any kinds of standards that he has.
I'm so confused. What should I do that doesn't involve giving up? I've played hard to get, I've tried the sweet innocent approach, I've damn near tried everything. What would you do? (that doesn't involve giving up!)Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
well if you tried everything then i would just ask. tell him you really like him and that you want to be committed with him. that's just the best way to say it. maybe hes busy at school or i dont really know him but the only way to find out is to ask him yourself. but at the same time make sure hes not playing you. making you a secret.Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
Ask him, straight up. If he can't give you a straight answer, he's not worth it, and he's certainly not the ';catch of the century.';
i need a question not a life story
I am sorry to say, but at least 8 different things in your story tell me that he is gay. He probably doesn't even know it yet, and that is why he keeps trying to get with you, but he is definitely gay.
You won't be able to turn him, so don't even bother trying. Just get over him as fast as you can.
Sorry.
Back up and give him space. I won't tell you that you are too young to be in love but based on your question, you don't quite seem mature enough. Swaying and kissing does not equal love. And neither does 3 instances of seeing this guy. I was once told, don't ';play'; hard to get. Be hard to get. Get your own life and if he wants to spend time with you he will, and if he doesn't take it for what it is and move on. You have mentioned all the things he does, I hope your schedule is just as full, if not fill it with meaningful activities.
I'm so confused. What should I do that doesn't involve giving up? I've played hard to get, I've tried the sweet innocent approach, I've damn near tried everything. What would you do? (that doesn't involve giving up!)Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
well if you tried everything then i would just ask. tell him you really like him and that you want to be committed with him. that's just the best way to say it. maybe hes busy at school or i dont really know him but the only way to find out is to ask him yourself. but at the same time make sure hes not playing you. making you a secret.Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
Ask him, straight up. If he can't give you a straight answer, he's not worth it, and he's certainly not the ';catch of the century.';
i need a question not a life story
I am sorry to say, but at least 8 different things in your story tell me that he is gay. He probably doesn't even know it yet, and that is why he keeps trying to get with you, but he is definitely gay.
You won't be able to turn him, so don't even bother trying. Just get over him as fast as you can.
Sorry.
Back up and give him space. I won't tell you that you are too young to be in love but based on your question, you don't quite seem mature enough. Swaying and kissing does not equal love. And neither does 3 instances of seeing this guy. I was once told, don't ';play'; hard to get. Be hard to get. Get your own life and if he wants to spend time with you he will, and if he doesn't take it for what it is and move on. You have mentioned all the things he does, I hope your schedule is just as full, if not fill it with meaningful activities.
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