CONSIDERATIONS
1.She calls me everyday
2.She will ask my friend who is she with, most likely to see if I'm around
3. One time at a party before I told her I liked her, she kinda grinding her private on my leg, and got really close, but I did not react to it.
3.Whenever I'm with a guy, she finds another guy to make me jealous
I told my friend who has a boyfriend that I liked her, she then said I never looked at you in that way, and that she would get back to me, a week later she calls me, and says she needs to talk to me. We meet up, and she asked '; Do you serious like me,'; I reply yes, and she goes into a series of statements such as You know I have a boyfriend, how do you think it's going to work? Do you think we are going to be more than friends, and last if it dosen't work out I still want to be your friend...I replied we are just going to take that risk...I still at this time was not sure if this girl is using me or if she really likes me, because she didn't directly say that she did, although she said she is willing to give it a try...hmmm should I settle for that answer??? also I had asked her to give her a massage a few days later, which she rejected it...what does that mean is this girl using me, or does she really like me....after she rejected me...I stopped talking to her....keep in mind my friend is still her friend...so they talk..which she will bring up my name in there conversations...also keep in my she also knows that my other friend who is also her other friend has hooked up earlier this year...So DOES SHE LIKE M?E..IS SHE USING ME?...IS SHE PLAYING HARD TO GET? WHAT THE HELL...IT'S LIKE SHE CALLS MY FRIEND NOW FREQUENTLY, AND SOMETIMES I'M WITH MY FRIEND AND SHE MIGHT KNOW IT...AND END UP CALLING HER LIKE THREE TIMES WITHIN 3 HOURS..ASKING HER WHO SHE IS WITH..DOES MY BI-SEXUAL FRIEND REALLY LIKE ME?
I don't know. She sounds like she's playing with you. She may be bi-curious, but I definitely would move on. She doesn't sound secure in herself enough that even if something did happen, that it would continue. Also, I would not find the mind games attractive if I were you.DOES MY BI-SEXUAL FRIEND REALLY LIKE ME?
i think that all girls grind with friends, and it doesnt mean anything.. some friends call eachother everyday, ect.. i think she just sees you as a friend.. im sorry.
No, I personally think that your friend does not have an interest in you. But then again, I would need to know more details. Perhaps you should ask her again when things die down.
YES she likes you. NO I dont think she's using u I think she is scared of the reactions of other ppl.
girl on girl action is cool
Friday, August 20, 2010
Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
Me and my boyfriend have been living together for about a year and a half now. we've just moved into our own place about five months ago. When we first started dating he was really sweet we would go out to eat somewhere or to the movies or to the park or just ride around town or whatever. He made sure we always did something together at least once or twice a week. Now we never go anywhere. Im always stuck in the house while he's at work or out at the basketball court and I'm bored. When I ask him can we go out to eat he says we don't have the money to do that. So I ask well can we go to the park and spend some time together away from the house. he says he's tired from work. so i say ok. ill wait a week or two then i'll ask again. it's the same answer. So one day i asked him why we don't do the things we use to do and he says because we don't have the money. So I tell him it doesn't take money to go out somewhere and spend time with each other away from the house. He says uh gas money. So I say well it takes gas money to go to the basketball court and he says its right around the corner. So i say well the park is right around the corner too. He says well i'm tired tonight so i'll take you tomorrow so tomorrow comes and he acts like he forgets and that he has so much on his mind. Not only does he not spend time with me anymore but he doesn't like to handle his own business he'll either send me his mom or his sister to do it and i'm like how old are you? why don't you handle your own business? then he just gets mad and says well i wont ask you anymore. he never cleans up after his self i'm always the one who's doing it or his mom or sister. Then when i tell him about it he says that i leave messes too and i say yeah but who cleans them up? I do! and who cleans up yours? I do! then he gets mad and says no you don't i clean up my own mess. which is a total lie because hes never at home. hes either at work at the basketball court sleep or playing video games. I ask him does he love me anymore and he says he does and when i cry about it he says he'll do better and he does for a couple weeks then its back to the same way. When these things come up and his sister has to clean after him or do his business she looks at me and tells me your man is sorry. that's my brother but he is sorry and lazy. he acts like he can't do anything his self I always cook clean wash and run errands. i know i don't pay the bills and all that true enough. but that doesnt excuse the fact that he should help out too does it? Everybody is having hard times now except rich people abd everybody is having trouble making ends meet probably and everybody is tired from work. but i know people that work longer hours than he does and they still come home and handle business. basicly if its something he wants to do he has the money and the energy to do it but if its something i want to do he doesn't. What am I suppose to do with that? His mom says the same thing. I love him with all my heart and he loves me but i think hes sorry and lazy too. Hes very stubborn and doesn't want to listen to me when I tell him stuff. So what should I do? I don't know what to say to him anymore. I feel like giving him a taste of his own medicine so he'll see how i feel when he does it to me. But I know that's probably taking the childish route.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
Lol- that sounds like my husband! You just can't change people...I mean I guess he tries for a while to shut you up, but in the end he reverts and I don't think ';giving him a taste'; of it will help. If he is as hardheaded as he seems, he won't care, because staying the way he is is more important to him than changing for you. Move on before you get hurt more.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
He sounds depressed.
you were in the wrong.
Maybe he needs help. My advise to you is 'never leave your partner especially in a fire'
I think the only thing you are wrong for is staying with him. Once they get in this pattern they never get out. He is reverting back to childhood. Kick him to the curb.
Spend some money on him, take him out for a meal and make him feel wanted instead of mooching off him and not paying any bills.
I appreciate that he is in the wrong over not cleaning up after himself, but coming home from work to face even more work is a terrible feeling.
I imagine he spends his free time playing sport and games to take his mind off the thought of another long day at work.
Living together can create problems too. Often your partner becomes a part of the background because they are always there; the partner becomes a commodity instead of someone to share life with.
Is there anyway you can see less of each other? Perhaps hang out with some of your other friends or get a (second?) job? Maybe even spend the weekends living with your parents? Seeing less of each other will make the time that you do spend together all the more special.
I say u only have one life to live be happy. If he not showin u a good time and makin u happy some other guy will girl.
Maybe giving him a taste of his own medicine is being childish, but he is being totally childish!! Sounds like he's never had to live on his own (away from his mommy %26amp; sister) %26amp; actually do things for himself. I know a guy who is gonna turn out like this %26amp; it just kills me b/c it's only gonna cause him problems.
Understand that the basketball is probably a stress release for him. That's why he does it. Find something you can do together that would be a stress release!
%26amp; why don't you take some initave and plan a night out for you two.
Bottom line, your going to have to sit him down %26amp; just point blank tell him that you are miserable. %26amp; if he doesn't do anything about it, (a sincere apology %26amp; genuine lasting change,) then he the one for you. Be genuine with your feelings and open to compromise.
Wow...we must be living parallel lives lol. I'll bet that before you came into the picture, he had someone clean up after him, cook for him, and take care of everything else. When I met my bf his mom did everything for him. Now I am the one taking care of him. Your bf is comfortable and secure and he is used to being taken care of. You just have to come to terms with it. If ts really bothering you then maybe you should try getting a job or doing community work or something to take you out of the house. For me I know my bf is spoilt but I can't call him lazy considering he goes to work everyday but since I started taking the inititive to go out by myself, more than ever he has started joining me.
Try it.
I guess you're just going to have to play hard ball with him. No sex until he takes you out. I mean, I don't know how you can get the point across other than that. Maybe you should ask a relationship specialist to get him to take you out.
Oh yeah, and next time add some paragraphs to your question.
Put your foot down show him your serious if he dont go out of his way to make you happy then you shouldnt be with him take a break and go hang with the girls have a girls night show him that if he out with guys your going to give him a taste of his own medicine dont cook or clean after him clean after yourself and as it builds up he will realize how much he should appreciate you before he loses you for good. you gotta threatin like that show him that its not ok to do that
i suggest all u can do is really jus be there for him and LISTEN to him. if u keep telling him to do things this way or that way he will get irritated. i understand how annoyin and immature it can be. but slowly he will realize it and learn it too. he has his mom to push him, so don't push him even harder. talk to him and make him understand. guys like these really don't understand..and sometimes its best to leave them alone so they can realize things.
no ur not wrong for thinking that because he is sorry and lazy .......but hes doing what hes doing because ur letting him. you need to put ur foot down tell him that hes making you unhappy and miserably. tell him he not who he was when you first met. and tell him that if he doesn't change you don't no how much longer you two will last together. and if ur a religious person you should pray about it and even if ur not just try it because it Works.
Drop him, he's no good. You did nothing wrong. You may not work, but it isn't just about that, is it? He doesn't have time for you as a couple, which means he doesn't hold your relationship in high priority.
You're nagging him. You might not notice it but I can guarantee that behavior goes hand in hand with it. And honestly in those situations its hard to tell which started first. Honestly, just leave him alone for a week or so and see if his behavior improves. Men tend to start caring when you stop caring.thick hair borrow money
Lol- that sounds like my husband! You just can't change people...I mean I guess he tries for a while to shut you up, but in the end he reverts and I don't think ';giving him a taste'; of it will help. If he is as hardheaded as he seems, he won't care, because staying the way he is is more important to him than changing for you. Move on before you get hurt more.Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend is being sorry and lazy?
He sounds depressed.
you were in the wrong.
Maybe he needs help. My advise to you is 'never leave your partner especially in a fire'
I think the only thing you are wrong for is staying with him. Once they get in this pattern they never get out. He is reverting back to childhood. Kick him to the curb.
Spend some money on him, take him out for a meal and make him feel wanted instead of mooching off him and not paying any bills.
I appreciate that he is in the wrong over not cleaning up after himself, but coming home from work to face even more work is a terrible feeling.
I imagine he spends his free time playing sport and games to take his mind off the thought of another long day at work.
Living together can create problems too. Often your partner becomes a part of the background because they are always there; the partner becomes a commodity instead of someone to share life with.
Is there anyway you can see less of each other? Perhaps hang out with some of your other friends or get a (second?) job? Maybe even spend the weekends living with your parents? Seeing less of each other will make the time that you do spend together all the more special.
I say u only have one life to live be happy. If he not showin u a good time and makin u happy some other guy will girl.
Maybe giving him a taste of his own medicine is being childish, but he is being totally childish!! Sounds like he's never had to live on his own (away from his mommy %26amp; sister) %26amp; actually do things for himself. I know a guy who is gonna turn out like this %26amp; it just kills me b/c it's only gonna cause him problems.
Understand that the basketball is probably a stress release for him. That's why he does it. Find something you can do together that would be a stress release!
%26amp; why don't you take some initave and plan a night out for you two.
Bottom line, your going to have to sit him down %26amp; just point blank tell him that you are miserable. %26amp; if he doesn't do anything about it, (a sincere apology %26amp; genuine lasting change,) then he the one for you. Be genuine with your feelings and open to compromise.
Wow...we must be living parallel lives lol. I'll bet that before you came into the picture, he had someone clean up after him, cook for him, and take care of everything else. When I met my bf his mom did everything for him. Now I am the one taking care of him. Your bf is comfortable and secure and he is used to being taken care of. You just have to come to terms with it. If ts really bothering you then maybe you should try getting a job or doing community work or something to take you out of the house. For me I know my bf is spoilt but I can't call him lazy considering he goes to work everyday but since I started taking the inititive to go out by myself, more than ever he has started joining me.
Try it.
I guess you're just going to have to play hard ball with him. No sex until he takes you out. I mean, I don't know how you can get the point across other than that. Maybe you should ask a relationship specialist to get him to take you out.
Oh yeah, and next time add some paragraphs to your question.
Put your foot down show him your serious if he dont go out of his way to make you happy then you shouldnt be with him take a break and go hang with the girls have a girls night show him that if he out with guys your going to give him a taste of his own medicine dont cook or clean after him clean after yourself and as it builds up he will realize how much he should appreciate you before he loses you for good. you gotta threatin like that show him that its not ok to do that
i suggest all u can do is really jus be there for him and LISTEN to him. if u keep telling him to do things this way or that way he will get irritated. i understand how annoyin and immature it can be. but slowly he will realize it and learn it too. he has his mom to push him, so don't push him even harder. talk to him and make him understand. guys like these really don't understand..and sometimes its best to leave them alone so they can realize things.
no ur not wrong for thinking that because he is sorry and lazy .......but hes doing what hes doing because ur letting him. you need to put ur foot down tell him that hes making you unhappy and miserably. tell him he not who he was when you first met. and tell him that if he doesn't change you don't no how much longer you two will last together. and if ur a religious person you should pray about it and even if ur not just try it because it Works.
Drop him, he's no good. You did nothing wrong. You may not work, but it isn't just about that, is it? He doesn't have time for you as a couple, which means he doesn't hold your relationship in high priority.
You're nagging him. You might not notice it but I can guarantee that behavior goes hand in hand with it. And honestly in those situations its hard to tell which started first. Honestly, just leave him alone for a week or so and see if his behavior improves. Men tend to start caring when you stop caring.
What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I am in high school and i i told her that i was quiet attracted to her. She then said that they thing was she had a boyfriend who i was unaware existed and went to another school. She said she really was flattered. She even tried to continue to talk to me after, like on how things were going and what i was doing still doing at school. I was the one who actually said that i should be going. I mean she was so nice about it, i was feeling happy as well as disappointed about it. The thing is, i really like this girl, i mean i like her alot, i have a huge crush on her. I was wondering if this means no, and no forever? if she really does have a boyfriend (and is not lying) could she possibly be saying maybe later? Also girls do you tell guys you already have a boyfriend when you don't want to make them feel bad? If i find out she was lying, does this mean she really has no interest in me and was just being nice? Is there a chance she is playing hard to get? I should tell you when i did this she was with her friends and i asked to speak with her. When i was talking to her she was in no rush to get back. Does it make a difference if i did it in front of her friends? I am kinda ignorant so i really could use your help.What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
ask her about her boyfriend.. how he is etc?What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I'd say that see likes you (as a friend) and if she doesn't have a boyfriend it means that not at the moment she doesn't want to date you but maybe in the future! Keep on seeing if there is any hope that you two can be together!
If I didn't want to hurt a guys feelings, I might say something like that, so that could be it. But I wouldn't say that I have a boyfriend if I was playing hard to get...
Maybe you should just be straightforward. Most girls admire confidence. When you're talking to her, you should courteously ask how her if when she said no, she meant no forever, or if she didn't have a boyfriend things would be different. Because she may just really have a boyfriend and not want to break up with him for you, because maybe at this point things are going well with him, or she thinks it would be shallow to dump him for you. Encourage her to do whatever makes her happy, and not feel pressured to do anything she doesn't want to do. Tell her that when she's happy, your happy. Just don't push it, be gentle and understanding.
Good Luck,
KT
if its ment to be it will be
ask her about her boyfriend.. how he is etc?What does she mean exactly? i told her i had a crush on her. girls please respond. I really need good help.?
I'd say that see likes you (as a friend) and if she doesn't have a boyfriend it means that not at the moment she doesn't want to date you but maybe in the future! Keep on seeing if there is any hope that you two can be together!
If I didn't want to hurt a guys feelings, I might say something like that, so that could be it. But I wouldn't say that I have a boyfriend if I was playing hard to get...
Maybe you should just be straightforward. Most girls admire confidence. When you're talking to her, you should courteously ask how her if when she said no, she meant no forever, or if she didn't have a boyfriend things would be different. Because she may just really have a boyfriend and not want to break up with him for you, because maybe at this point things are going well with him, or she thinks it would be shallow to dump him for you. Encourage her to do whatever makes her happy, and not feel pressured to do anything she doesn't want to do. Tell her that when she's happy, your happy. Just don't push it, be gentle and understanding.
Good Luck,
KT
if its ment to be it will be
BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
Okay so me and my best friend have been friends for almost 4 years (we even celebrate the day we met!) I hang out with her everyday and she stays the night everyday, she means everything to me! I adore her to death. But heres the deal. I just recently started seeing this guy, and we're getting kinda serious. I really like him and I know he likes me. We've been hanging out everyday (and I still make time for her!) but, she talked to me yesterday and said if I EVER choose him over her (as hanging out or anything like that) that the friendship was over. I thought she was just playing around and being dramatic. But see my best friend acts REALLY immature, shes a total kid at heart, and my boyfriend is the serious mature type. He thinks shes very annoying and she thinks hes irritating and shes always rolling her eyes at him and ignoring him and then tells me he was being mean? I think shes being VERY immature, and I know when you start to get older you do need to put yourself and your boyfriend first, because thats where your life will be if you want it I guess, and I know me and her won't be BEEEST friends forever, but I want to be great friends forever? and want her as my best friend right now, but I can't keep driving back and forth 5 or 6 times a day to hang out with them both at diff times cause they can't stand each other. This guy is important to me and he means alot to me, but I love her to. I don't wanna lose her over a guy, but I don't wanna lose him over a friendship, because I couldn't dedicate time to him. This is getting to be REALLY hard. If I don't see my BFF EVERY day she gets SO mad at me, but it seems lately even when I do spend the day with her all she does is complain how much she hates so and so and how bad her day was, and she just bitchs and screams and all I wanna do is take her home and be with him.
What can I do to calm her down?? How do I balance out??BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
I think you should sit down and talk to her about how you feel. You sid yourself she is immature and she will grow out of this with age. And if she Truly cares about you as her best friend then she will want you to be happy. So just sit her down ans sad hey..I really like this guy...Your my best friend and always will be...just because i have him and love him doesn't mean he is replacing you....we will have a set day, 2 days whatever ever day same time each week to hang out...(that way she knows your making her a priority as well) I think this will make her feel better. And give it an honest effort. and if this doesn't work then obviously she didn't care about the friendship in the first place
And with him tell him that you know how he feels about her but she is your best friend and your not putting her first but you do have to make time for her a couple days a week and ask him to make an effort to like her.
I hope this helps I had the same problem with my fiance and a friend and they are slowly warming up to each other! =)BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
you have to make time for both, but your BFF needs to cut the ******* cord. you will always be friends but if she is ready to ditch your friendship because you have a BF well... she is way to clingy. maybe see if your BF has any friends she would want to date.
its possible to have more than one friend. but she shouldnt be controling who you talk to or see. that is not the kind of friendship anyone should want to deal with. when she is acting like that it is pushing you away. tell her that.
go jump off a building and land on your head and shoot your best friend especially if its you BFF so make sure you shoot like 30 bullets into your frined then jump
You need to tell her that your life does not revolve around her and that you will have other friends and possibly a husband someday and that he WILL come first.
Too long to read...get to the point
Best thing is to talk to her tell her how you feel I think your friend has some issues that may make her feel insecure about your friendship boyfriends come and go but friends last forever if your friendship is important then find a way to work it out good luck
Eventually, she's going to experience this rejection. Its just a question of when.
I suggest that you tell her off, and continue normally with your boyfriend. If she wants to meet with you on more reasonable terms, that's great - but you have no intention of giving up a romantic life for her.
Her ';me first'; is a loser attitude. Either she loses it, or you lose her.
It's probably not a bad idea to just let her whine and scream and be jealous. She will either get over it, grow up, and learn how to be a good friend without being the center of your universe, or she'll get a lot madder and end the friendship. If she does end the friendship, then you really never meant that much to her in the first place; if that's the case, then you're better off without her.
Some might give kinder, gentler advice but I think everyone involved is old enough to learn how to play nice, share and get along together.
you need to stop using the word forever.
you can pick, either never have a BF and always have a BFF, or vice versa. put her in your spot, tell her you would nag like that.
shes ending a 4 year friendship because your hanging with a dude too? thats immature.
you gotta ditch her, or make all the time for her.
you really need to have a serious conversation with both of them.
you need to let your friend know how important your boyfriend is to you.
and you need to do the same thing with him.
you have to let them know you cant be switching from person to person , if you dont see someone that day talk to on the phone or text them .
if they Truly love you , they will understand.
(:
well if you have a boy friend that doesent like your best friend its kinda doomed to fail. Eather way i can see that it would suck for you but it comes down to would your rather lose your best friend for 4 years or your boy friend for 4 days. I know that you dont want to lose eather of them so find out what your bf and bff have in common and try doing them together maybe if she has a bf try double dates.
Sit down and talk to her. ask her why she doesn't like him. but be nice about it and dont yell at her. that will make things worse. but if that doesnt work be like i understand that you dont like him. and you wont tell me y, but i really do and he really cares about me. thus is something really stupid to be fighting about. i love you and i want to be your best friend for ever. i will make you a deal. i will scedual dates were me and u will just hang out and (name of boyfriend) wont be there.
Uhhh....Well you need to try and make them friends even best friends sit them down talk to them both and tell them that you love them both and want to be with both but they have to help you tell them how hurt you are and if they love you then they will try to get along then try to get your friend a boyfriend too so she wont be left out
you're friend is being totally ridiculous. you need to have talk with her and tell her that you are your own person and you really like this guy. tell her you have a right to be in a relationship if it makes you happy and if she's your real friend she'll accept that and still be your friend (even if you can only hang out with her every other day or even only 2-3 times a week). Tell her that you think that the way she's behaving is selfish and you'll still be her friend if she wants you to be, but you can't put all life and relationships apart from hers on hold just because she wants you to. And if she can't accept that she isn't worth it!
just... talk 2 both of them... stand ure ground .. tell them u love them equally ... n tell ya boyfriend the same... but.. win or if u tell ure friend.. explain 2 her how u feel abt. it... tell her shez ure bestie n he'll never b put 1st but,,,, the BEST thing 2 do is talk 2 them @ the same time.. IT WORKED WITH ME! LOL* hope i helpedd... :) good luck!
It really depends on if you love this guy or not. If you love him and want things to go well between you two then you need to worry more about him. You should sit your friend down and tell her how you feel about him and make it known that he is not going anywhere. Guys want put up with a girl putting her friends before them all the time. Guys don't mind you hanging with your friends but if you get stressed out over picking who to hang with then he gets stressed out. If your friend can't accept the fact that you want to spend more time with him, then that is her loss. She's not a true friend if she can't understand how you feel. That's why people have bestfriends so that they are there for them and understand them. I would never be mad at my bestfriend because she is in love. All I am saying is your bestfriend should never ask you to chose over her or the guy you care about. And honestly it sounds like eaither way you will lose one of them no matter what choice you make. But goodluck and I hope you make a good decision.
What can I do to calm her down?? How do I balance out??BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
I think you should sit down and talk to her about how you feel. You sid yourself she is immature and she will grow out of this with age. And if she Truly cares about you as her best friend then she will want you to be happy. So just sit her down ans sad hey..I really like this guy...Your my best friend and always will be...just because i have him and love him doesn't mean he is replacing you....we will have a set day, 2 days whatever ever day same time each week to hang out...(that way she knows your making her a priority as well) I think this will make her feel better. And give it an honest effort. and if this doesn't work then obviously she didn't care about the friendship in the first place
And with him tell him that you know how he feels about her but she is your best friend and your not putting her first but you do have to make time for her a couple days a week and ask him to make an effort to like her.
I hope this helps I had the same problem with my fiance and a friend and they are slowly warming up to each other! =)BFF Vs BF trouble!! please read?
you have to make time for both, but your BFF needs to cut the ******* cord. you will always be friends but if she is ready to ditch your friendship because you have a BF well... she is way to clingy. maybe see if your BF has any friends she would want to date.
its possible to have more than one friend. but she shouldnt be controling who you talk to or see. that is not the kind of friendship anyone should want to deal with. when she is acting like that it is pushing you away. tell her that.
go jump off a building and land on your head and shoot your best friend especially if its you BFF so make sure you shoot like 30 bullets into your frined then jump
You need to tell her that your life does not revolve around her and that you will have other friends and possibly a husband someday and that he WILL come first.
Too long to read...get to the point
Best thing is to talk to her tell her how you feel I think your friend has some issues that may make her feel insecure about your friendship boyfriends come and go but friends last forever if your friendship is important then find a way to work it out good luck
Eventually, she's going to experience this rejection. Its just a question of when.
I suggest that you tell her off, and continue normally with your boyfriend. If she wants to meet with you on more reasonable terms, that's great - but you have no intention of giving up a romantic life for her.
Her ';me first'; is a loser attitude. Either she loses it, or you lose her.
It's probably not a bad idea to just let her whine and scream and be jealous. She will either get over it, grow up, and learn how to be a good friend without being the center of your universe, or she'll get a lot madder and end the friendship. If she does end the friendship, then you really never meant that much to her in the first place; if that's the case, then you're better off without her.
Some might give kinder, gentler advice but I think everyone involved is old enough to learn how to play nice, share and get along together.
you need to stop using the word forever.
you can pick, either never have a BF and always have a BFF, or vice versa. put her in your spot, tell her you would nag like that.
shes ending a 4 year friendship because your hanging with a dude too? thats immature.
you gotta ditch her, or make all the time for her.
you really need to have a serious conversation with both of them.
you need to let your friend know how important your boyfriend is to you.
and you need to do the same thing with him.
you have to let them know you cant be switching from person to person , if you dont see someone that day talk to on the phone or text them .
if they Truly love you , they will understand.
(:
well if you have a boy friend that doesent like your best friend its kinda doomed to fail. Eather way i can see that it would suck for you but it comes down to would your rather lose your best friend for 4 years or your boy friend for 4 days. I know that you dont want to lose eather of them so find out what your bf and bff have in common and try doing them together maybe if she has a bf try double dates.
Sit down and talk to her. ask her why she doesn't like him. but be nice about it and dont yell at her. that will make things worse. but if that doesnt work be like i understand that you dont like him. and you wont tell me y, but i really do and he really cares about me. thus is something really stupid to be fighting about. i love you and i want to be your best friend for ever. i will make you a deal. i will scedual dates were me and u will just hang out and (name of boyfriend) wont be there.
Uhhh....Well you need to try and make them friends even best friends sit them down talk to them both and tell them that you love them both and want to be with both but they have to help you tell them how hurt you are and if they love you then they will try to get along then try to get your friend a boyfriend too so she wont be left out
you're friend is being totally ridiculous. you need to have talk with her and tell her that you are your own person and you really like this guy. tell her you have a right to be in a relationship if it makes you happy and if she's your real friend she'll accept that and still be your friend (even if you can only hang out with her every other day or even only 2-3 times a week). Tell her that you think that the way she's behaving is selfish and you'll still be her friend if she wants you to be, but you can't put all life and relationships apart from hers on hold just because she wants you to. And if she can't accept that she isn't worth it!
just... talk 2 both of them... stand ure ground .. tell them u love them equally ... n tell ya boyfriend the same... but.. win or if u tell ure friend.. explain 2 her how u feel abt. it... tell her shez ure bestie n he'll never b put 1st but,,,, the BEST thing 2 do is talk 2 them @ the same time.. IT WORKED WITH ME! LOL* hope i helpedd... :) good luck!
It really depends on if you love this guy or not. If you love him and want things to go well between you two then you need to worry more about him. You should sit your friend down and tell her how you feel about him and make it known that he is not going anywhere. Guys want put up with a girl putting her friends before them all the time. Guys don't mind you hanging with your friends but if you get stressed out over picking who to hang with then he gets stressed out. If your friend can't accept the fact that you want to spend more time with him, then that is her loss. She's not a true friend if she can't understand how you feel. That's why people have bestfriends so that they are there for them and understand them. I would never be mad at my bestfriend because she is in love. All I am saying is your bestfriend should never ask you to chose over her or the guy you care about. And honestly it sounds like eaither way you will lose one of them no matter what choice you make. But goodluck and I hope you make a good decision.
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
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Has my girlfriend lost interest in me?
ok im going to be completely honest so listen up. i dont even remember how i met this girl, but as soon as we met we instantly ';clicked'; she liked me and i liked her, the problem was she had a boyfriend. he lived about 1-3 hour drive away. we both knew we liked each other and i was kind of playing hard to get and it was working, or she just liked me anyways. we both knew we liked each other but niether of us had said anything, we hugged, cuddled, and held hands alot. finally she asked me (not strait up, she asked why i would be like that to her) and i told her i liked her. immediatly she told me she liked me back, 2-3 days later she broke up with her boyfriend, then the next day i asked her out. (that would be yesterday). as you all know yesterday was halloween, we met up at a beach at dark, with another couple,, and split up, me and her, and the other couple. we made out 2 times, and she gave me a hickie on my neck. but now when i talk to her on myspace she answers in short phrases like ';ya'; or ';lol oh'; or ';ok'; it gets annoying after a while.
NOTE: i asked her what was wrong because she had been not talking, she said nothing she was ok.
SHE WAS MORE INTIMATE VERBALLY (not physically hehe) BEFORE WE STARTED GOING OUT
whats her deal?
does she still like me?
has she lost interest after one freakin day?
did she REALLY break up with her boyfriend?
help me.
give me any advice you can please..
id really appreciate it, this is the most important question ive ever askedHas my girlfriend lost interest?
i think she likes u but she still has feelings for her boyfriend. u have to give her time. she is probably still recovering n she doesnt want u to feel bad. or maybe she doesnt want u to no cuz she likes both of u. she likes her bf but she doesnt want to lose u
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
It looks like your girl doesn't rate your relationship as important as you do. And yes, it seems like she lost interest but it is too early to panic yet. First you act hard to get, and next thing you won't let her breath. Give her some space. You said you made out, there is a possibility you failed to fill her ex's shoe.
the best thing to do is move on. Imagine a box, put all your feelings for her in a box and then send the box out to sea.
Now take a deep breath, smell that - its called reality. What are you going to do with the rest of your life?
I dont think she broke up with her bf and now she feels guilty for going out with you.I think she is confused and doesnt know what to do.
if she lost intrest she would break up with u.
maybe she was busy while she was online. give it a few days, don't contact her, and then maybe call her or go see her and see what you think then
Ya i think she probally didnt break up with her boyfriend and is now feeling bad that she cheated on him with you and is being weird with you like nothing ever happened. She didn't reliaze it till she actually did something more serious.
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Has my girlfriend lost interest in me?
ok im going to be completely honest so listen up. i dont even remember how i met this girl, but as soon as we met we instantly ';clicked'; she liked me and i liked her, the problem was she had a boyfriend. he lived about 1-3 hour drive away. we both knew we liked each other and i was kind of playing hard to get and it was working, or she just liked me anyways. we both knew we liked each other but niether of us had said anything, we hugged, cuddled, and held hands alot. finally she asked me (not strait up, she asked why i would be like that to her) and i told her i liked her. immediatly she told me she liked me back, 2-3 days later she broke up with her boyfriend, then the next day i asked her out. (that would be yesterday). as you all know yesterday was halloween, we met up at a beach at dark, with another couple,, and split up, me and her, and the other couple. we made out 2 times, and she gave me a hickie on my neck. but now when i talk to her on myspace she answers in short phrases like ';ya'; or ';lol oh'; or ';ok'; it gets annoying after a while.
NOTE: i asked her what was wrong because she had been not talking, she said nothing she was ok.
SHE WAS MORE INTIMATE VERBALLY (not physically hehe) BEFORE WE STARTED GOING OUT
whats her deal?
does she still like me?
has she lost interest after one freakin day?
did she REALLY break up with her boyfriend?
help me.
give me any advice you can please..
id really appreciate it, this is the most important question ive ever askedHas my girlfriend lost interest?
i think she likes u but she still has feelings for her boyfriend. u have to give her time. she is probably still recovering n she doesnt want u to feel bad. or maybe she doesnt want u to no cuz she likes both of u. she likes her bf but she doesnt want to lose u
Has my girlfriend lost interest?
It looks like your girl doesn't rate your relationship as important as you do. And yes, it seems like she lost interest but it is too early to panic yet. First you act hard to get, and next thing you won't let her breath. Give her some space. You said you made out, there is a possibility you failed to fill her ex's shoe.
the best thing to do is move on. Imagine a box, put all your feelings for her in a box and then send the box out to sea.
Now take a deep breath, smell that - its called reality. What are you going to do with the rest of your life?
I dont think she broke up with her bf and now she feels guilty for going out with you.I think she is confused and doesnt know what to do.
if she lost intrest she would break up with u.
maybe she was busy while she was online. give it a few days, don't contact her, and then maybe call her or go see her and see what you think then
Ya i think she probally didnt break up with her boyfriend and is now feeling bad that she cheated on him with you and is being weird with you like nothing ever happened. She didn't reliaze it till she actually did something more serious.
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I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
First, his roommate is a guy. Well, everytime he comes to see me, he has his roommate with him. We would play games and when it got late they would leave. But, I'll ask my bf to stay and let your rm go by himself. But the rm always says, ';Nooooo';. Then my bf would say, ';I like sleeping in my own bed.'; Once I told his rm to clean up his mess b4 leaving and my bf said i was being rude. but I said, '; you didn't say that when he made me clean up at your house.'; after that he wouldn't call me untill I apologed to his roommate so I said what about my apology? (From when his roommate yelled in my face and called me stupid. I cried at their house in front of them) My feelings were hurt, and he said, ';F*** yo feelings.'; His roommate never gives him the phone or tells him i called. And he put me in a choke hold once that really hurt ( I teared up) but my bf said the rm was only playing.'; But how! He wasn't smiling and he was jerking me pretty hard. I need help.I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
well you ARE a girl right? well i am and i don't think your bf is cheating on you with a guy BUT this is the important part... he isn't cheating on you he probably is just putting his other relationships in front of you guy's relationships. and for that reason you should stop going out with him. because you are his gf and should put you in front of his other relationshipsI think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
You should dump you so-called boyfriend! He never helps you and lets his rm walk all over you! And his rm should never be able to get you in a choke hold! That is so wrong! Just dump the boyfriend and tell him ';Go back to your room mate a$$h@le!!!'; That should clear up the problem. He's definitely more into him than you anyway. :(
well you ARE a girl right? well i am and i don't think your bf is cheating on you with a guy BUT this is the important part... he isn't cheating on you he probably is just putting his other relationships in front of you guy's relationships. and for that reason you should stop going out with him. because you are his gf and should put you in front of his other relationshipsI think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his roommate.?
You should dump you so-called boyfriend! He never helps you and lets his rm walk all over you! And his rm should never be able to get you in a choke hold! That is so wrong! Just dump the boyfriend and tell him ';Go back to your room mate a$$h@le!!!'; That should clear up the problem. He's definitely more into him than you anyway. :(
Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
I'm in highschool. Don't even tell me I'm too young to be in love. Cause I've felt love. I've had 5 boyfriends since 7th grade and I'm in my junior year right now, so I've bided my time quite well. All of these boyfriends have lasted 4 months to a year. I cared for all of them. Only loved one. Now there's a new guy. He's the catch of the century. Personality, gymnast, drumline major, pianist, gorgeous, smile and eyes that could stun you in your tracks. It was a miracle the first time he held me and kissed me because I never dreamed he'd have any kind of feelings for me. We talked about everything significant in our lives and he looked at me like nothing else in the world mattered and picked me up and twirled me around in the movies, and held me when I was cold and we sorta swayed like we were dancing, and talked about everything and it was the most perfect night of my life. The next day, and the past few weeks for that matter, it was a different story. He flashes me a smile in the hall sometimes and gives me a hug on the rarest occasion. We've hung out three times since then. First time, at lunch, we were alone on the basement starewell of the school. He kissed me by the end again, confusing me all over again, but barely said goodbye when the bell rang. Second time, he invited me to his house. We watched Robin Hood Prince of Thieves because he loved the music in it. Cuddled on his bed. He gave me that look again, played with my hair, kissed me, made out with me, held me, but tried to unbutton my pants three times when I told him no (I've had sex before, and i was more than willing to do it with him, but I wanted commitment first). But he finally stopped and just held me and kissed me and played with my hair and looked into my eyes. Next day he acts the same, like we barely know eachother more than a passing glance and occasional smile. Third time was today. I told him I wanted to hear him play Mad World for me on the piano and we sat in the band room all of lunch just talking and him playing me piano music. He hugged me, but never looked in my eyes unless I said something weird, and didn't seem at all interested in anything about me anymore, because it felt like i was interrogating him just to keep a conversation going. Then the bell rang and he said he was going to the drum room and got up and walked off with an awkward wave over his shoulder. Biggest mixed signals I've ever experienced. I'm trying to teach myself piano and how to do a backflip so i can meet any kinds of standards that he has.
I'm so confused. What should I do that doesn't involve giving up? I've played hard to get, I've tried the sweet innocent approach, I've damn near tried everything. What would you do? (that doesn't involve giving up!)Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
well if you tried everything then i would just ask. tell him you really like him and that you want to be committed with him. that's just the best way to say it. maybe hes busy at school or i dont really know him but the only way to find out is to ask him yourself. but at the same time make sure hes not playing you. making you a secret.Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
Ask him, straight up. If he can't give you a straight answer, he's not worth it, and he's certainly not the ';catch of the century.';
i need a question not a life story
I am sorry to say, but at least 8 different things in your story tell me that he is gay. He probably doesn't even know it yet, and that is why he keeps trying to get with you, but he is definitely gay.
You won't be able to turn him, so don't even bother trying. Just get over him as fast as you can.
Sorry.
Back up and give him space. I won't tell you that you are too young to be in love but based on your question, you don't quite seem mature enough. Swaying and kissing does not equal love. And neither does 3 instances of seeing this guy. I was once told, don't ';play'; hard to get. Be hard to get. Get your own life and if he wants to spend time with you he will, and if he doesn't take it for what it is and move on. You have mentioned all the things he does, I hope your schedule is just as full, if not fill it with meaningful activities.
I'm so confused. What should I do that doesn't involve giving up? I've played hard to get, I've tried the sweet innocent approach, I've damn near tried everything. What would you do? (that doesn't involve giving up!)Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
well if you tried everything then i would just ask. tell him you really like him and that you want to be committed with him. that's just the best way to say it. maybe hes busy at school or i dont really know him but the only way to find out is to ask him yourself. but at the same time make sure hes not playing you. making you a secret.Sooo, I have a dilemma. With a guy. Help?
Ask him, straight up. If he can't give you a straight answer, he's not worth it, and he's certainly not the ';catch of the century.';
i need a question not a life story
I am sorry to say, but at least 8 different things in your story tell me that he is gay. He probably doesn't even know it yet, and that is why he keeps trying to get with you, but he is definitely gay.
You won't be able to turn him, so don't even bother trying. Just get over him as fast as you can.
Sorry.
Back up and give him space. I won't tell you that you are too young to be in love but based on your question, you don't quite seem mature enough. Swaying and kissing does not equal love. And neither does 3 instances of seeing this guy. I was once told, don't ';play'; hard to get. Be hard to get. Get your own life and if he wants to spend time with you he will, and if he doesn't take it for what it is and move on. You have mentioned all the things he does, I hope your schedule is just as full, if not fill it with meaningful activities.
Boyfriend insulting me.?
This is a bit long but I wanted to explain EVERYTHING
How to explain this. My boyfriend has an interesting personality. He can be really sweet at times but then he can call me mean things like lard ***,fatty,stupid,etc. ((I know i'm not fat. I excersice everyday my bmi is fine, and what not but one can only take it so much. he's been saying it almost everyday for the last 5months.)) Anyways, he says it as a joking way. he even says it. even when I said ';ya know it's kind of getting to me when yo usay this....'; and what not. and he's like ';I was just kidding. laugh more.';
But on the other hand I know he cares about me. like a few weeks ago he called me in the middle of the night to tell me he had this freaky dream of losing me and told me he's always going to have feelings for me no matter what happens. And he realizes he treats me kind of bad. But whenever he says he needs to treat me better I always say ';no your fine.'; It just comes out because I don't want him to change his personality for me. And another thing is he wants to be a comedian. But can't do any gigs or whatever till he's 21. so until then everyday he plays video games for hours and hours and I just sit there. It's so rare when me and him go out and do something together. I still spend time with him. but when he's playing video games with his friends.
Anyways, a week ago I was kind of moody and was basically like ';It seems you don't care about me sometimes.'; and he looked hurt. He was just like ';I'm trying so hard. and you can't see or even accept my feelings.'; and then I feel bad afterwords. ~ _ ~ I'm so confused! But his longest relationship was three months. we are almost on 8. And apparently he's surprising me on my birthday with whatever I want to do and a bunch of other things. so like I said. I know he cares about me. But...the insults are seriously bugging me. and putting me down.
And like he's the only one that understands me the most. Everyone else doesn't know my family life. Everyone else doesn't know my sad side. I only let them see my happy side and without even trying he saw the truth in me and what not. and all that jazz. He's a sweet guy. Just....yeah.
((just to prove i'm not fat...so no one's like HE';S HINTING YOUR FAT.))
Weight:130lbs
Pants size:7
Height: 5ft 5.5inches
Age:19Boyfriend insulting me.?
Well it's good that he cares about you and he's doing really nice things for you, but just let him know how much it hurts you when he calls you those things. I'm sure he'll stop once he understands how hurt you are :)
good luck! :)Boyfriend insulting me.?
well tell him you hate when he says those things and if he says hes sorry and that he'll change...let him.
he wontt change if he thinks what he is doing is okay with u..he sees no point in it if in his mind everything is going perfectly
Even if you were 'fat' (and you are not, as indicated by a size 7 pant size) why is he judging you on your weight? Sounds like he's controlling and just plain mean. Dump him.
thats interesting that he first insults u and then is really nice 2 u and cares about u. he really does mean well but he doesnt kno that he's going 2 far when he's joking. tell him that is really bugs u and dont be silly at all. u really mean it! and if he takes it lighty start 2 get a little mad. that should work cause if my gf did that 2 me i would shape up ASAP!
He's inconsiderate and he is mean. You are using excuses to justify his behavior. Time will make him worse but in the end only you can decide what it is that you want. Stop down playing his insults. You hate them but yet in order to spare his feelings just suck it up and say it's no big deal. You cater to his behavior. Even comediennes have souls and know when to stop. If you want him around you need to establish boundaries.
Tell him its really bugging you. My boyfriend was exactly the same, but he didn't call me fat. He used to always call me a cabbage and it was funny at first but it got anoying and i told him, but he didn't stop it, he just doesn't say it as much lol.
okay, girl for one don't play that victim game ';you don't care about me sometimes'; that will really drive a man crazy. in a way i believe he does care about you, but not enough to keep negative comments to himself.
for one, call you offensive names is NOT a joke. he should had the comment sense to know that words that deep would hurt you. he should have KNOWN. how can anybody Not!! there is nothing positive about being ';stupid';. The longer girls go through this, the more the problem will be, that's probably why 30% of girls are anorexic, because their knucklehead boyfriends always say such harsh things. but if YOU know that you're at the desired weight that you want to be, then you're fine!!!!!!!!!! there was no need to jot down your pants size and weight, that only means you're insecure about your weight.
you're just going to have to have a long talk with him. you can't change him, he has to change himself.
Why in the world would you want a bf that constantly insults you and plays video games with his friends for hours? He's doing all the taking and you're being the giver. He seldom takes you any place and you're content to take that? You're only 19 for goodness sake, you need fun. If he's wanting to be a commedian and his kind of jokes are making you feel bad about yourself, then he's not a good one. I think you're really coming to your senses about how this guy really is and I think you are wanting a change. That's exactly what you need--a different bf. This one only thinks of himself and if he's got a gf that goes along with it, he's going to keep her around . Believe me not many girls would take his kind of bull and especially the playing games for hours and never taking her any place. Get a back bone sweetie and dump him, because he's not going to change.spyware removal borrow money
How to explain this. My boyfriend has an interesting personality. He can be really sweet at times but then he can call me mean things like lard ***,fatty,stupid,etc. ((I know i'm not fat. I excersice everyday my bmi is fine, and what not but one can only take it so much. he's been saying it almost everyday for the last 5months.)) Anyways, he says it as a joking way. he even says it. even when I said ';ya know it's kind of getting to me when yo usay this....'; and what not. and he's like ';I was just kidding. laugh more.';
But on the other hand I know he cares about me. like a few weeks ago he called me in the middle of the night to tell me he had this freaky dream of losing me and told me he's always going to have feelings for me no matter what happens. And he realizes he treats me kind of bad. But whenever he says he needs to treat me better I always say ';no your fine.'; It just comes out because I don't want him to change his personality for me. And another thing is he wants to be a comedian. But can't do any gigs or whatever till he's 21. so until then everyday he plays video games for hours and hours and I just sit there. It's so rare when me and him go out and do something together. I still spend time with him. but when he's playing video games with his friends.
Anyways, a week ago I was kind of moody and was basically like ';It seems you don't care about me sometimes.'; and he looked hurt. He was just like ';I'm trying so hard. and you can't see or even accept my feelings.'; and then I feel bad afterwords. ~ _ ~ I'm so confused! But his longest relationship was three months. we are almost on 8. And apparently he's surprising me on my birthday with whatever I want to do and a bunch of other things. so like I said. I know he cares about me. But...the insults are seriously bugging me. and putting me down.
And like he's the only one that understands me the most. Everyone else doesn't know my family life. Everyone else doesn't know my sad side. I only let them see my happy side and without even trying he saw the truth in me and what not. and all that jazz. He's a sweet guy. Just....yeah.
((just to prove i'm not fat...so no one's like HE';S HINTING YOUR FAT.))
Weight:130lbs
Pants size:7
Height: 5ft 5.5inches
Age:19Boyfriend insulting me.?
Well it's good that he cares about you and he's doing really nice things for you, but just let him know how much it hurts you when he calls you those things. I'm sure he'll stop once he understands how hurt you are :)
good luck! :)Boyfriend insulting me.?
well tell him you hate when he says those things and if he says hes sorry and that he'll change...let him.
he wontt change if he thinks what he is doing is okay with u..he sees no point in it if in his mind everything is going perfectly
Even if you were 'fat' (and you are not, as indicated by a size 7 pant size) why is he judging you on your weight? Sounds like he's controlling and just plain mean. Dump him.
thats interesting that he first insults u and then is really nice 2 u and cares about u. he really does mean well but he doesnt kno that he's going 2 far when he's joking. tell him that is really bugs u and dont be silly at all. u really mean it! and if he takes it lighty start 2 get a little mad. that should work cause if my gf did that 2 me i would shape up ASAP!
He's inconsiderate and he is mean. You are using excuses to justify his behavior. Time will make him worse but in the end only you can decide what it is that you want. Stop down playing his insults. You hate them but yet in order to spare his feelings just suck it up and say it's no big deal. You cater to his behavior. Even comediennes have souls and know when to stop. If you want him around you need to establish boundaries.
Tell him its really bugging you. My boyfriend was exactly the same, but he didn't call me fat. He used to always call me a cabbage and it was funny at first but it got anoying and i told him, but he didn't stop it, he just doesn't say it as much lol.
okay, girl for one don't play that victim game ';you don't care about me sometimes'; that will really drive a man crazy. in a way i believe he does care about you, but not enough to keep negative comments to himself.
for one, call you offensive names is NOT a joke. he should had the comment sense to know that words that deep would hurt you. he should have KNOWN. how can anybody Not!! there is nothing positive about being ';stupid';. The longer girls go through this, the more the problem will be, that's probably why 30% of girls are anorexic, because their knucklehead boyfriends always say such harsh things. but if YOU know that you're at the desired weight that you want to be, then you're fine!!!!!!!!!! there was no need to jot down your pants size and weight, that only means you're insecure about your weight.
you're just going to have to have a long talk with him. you can't change him, he has to change himself.
Why in the world would you want a bf that constantly insults you and plays video games with his friends for hours? He's doing all the taking and you're being the giver. He seldom takes you any place and you're content to take that? You're only 19 for goodness sake, you need fun. If he's wanting to be a commedian and his kind of jokes are making you feel bad about yourself, then he's not a good one. I think you're really coming to your senses about how this guy really is and I think you are wanting a change. That's exactly what you need--a different bf. This one only thinks of himself and if he's got a gf that goes along with it, he's going to keep her around . Believe me not many girls would take his kind of bull and especially the playing games for hours and never taking her any place. Get a back bone sweetie and dump him, because he's not going to change.
How can I move to the next step with this situation?!!!?
So I'm a guy and met this girl that I liked in one of my classes, I talked to her and had her facebook then phone number. but when the quarter over I couldn't see her anymore. I text her and told her that I like her and she said that is good!. I kept flirting with her and I was so romantic, but she doesn't text me back that much, but when I really choose my words and text her a sweat message she respond to me. one time I asked her out and she excused that she is busy. now I'm sure that she likes me, but I'm not understanding if she is playing hard to get or she is just being so slow with our relationship. If she is super busy wouldn't make sense that girls would but a priority time for a relationship!!! Now I really want to move to the next step and become boyfriend and girlfriend. if you know something I really need your help.
oh yah she is latina by the way.How can I move to the next step with this situation?!!!?
sounds like shes not interested in datingHow can I move to the next step with this situation?!!!?
Well i am guessing that you may be getting the wrong signals from her because from the way that you describe the situation you should just move on because the cat and mouse game will never work to your advantage especially if she just likes people chasing her around
Oh dude maybe you shuld tell her youll get her a green card and trust me she'll be sucking your penis in no time...
Oh and you think she likes you because when you asked her out she said she was busy???? UHhhhmm dude thats saying go away i'm sucking this other white guys penis....
It sounds like she is not that interested in you. She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If I were you, I would just stop talking to her. If she does like you she will try to start a conversation with you if you stop talking to her.
Um. Theres No Relationship By The Way..
Its Non existant At This Point.
Best Advice.
Be Persistant.
ASker Out AGain And Again.
Till She Says Yes I Will.
Or I Dont Like You.
Till Then.
Grow Some Testicles.
And Have Confidence.
Trust Me.
Confidence = sexy.
well no i am a girl and i would not like a guy to rush thing but just do what your doing and as the time is going like move up step by step but not to fast and you well do fine!
she is picky with words and she IS playing hard to get. its stupid she's doing that because it just gets ppl confused. idk how to solve this but either ask her whats her problem or just text her as much as she does u and maybe she'll come 2 u.
text:
tu mucho bonita
Maybe she is being overly nice to you but doesnt see you as her type?
shes picky. give her time
go up to her face and ask her, tell her to answer u now
Well im like that too im a girl and maybe she is acting that way because past relationships for example she probably was scarred real bad that she is afraid to like you back and to go real fast inside the relationship so she is probably hiding back wanting to go slow and trying to find time to move in . what you should do is give her your heart tell her everything from the heart do not plan it out or think out just say the first thing that comes from the heart out of your mouth and trust me she would be head over hills oh yeah don't text her have face to face confrontation and tell her.
oh yah she is latina by the way.How can I move to the next step with this situation?!!!?
sounds like shes not interested in datingHow can I move to the next step with this situation?!!!?
Well i am guessing that you may be getting the wrong signals from her because from the way that you describe the situation you should just move on because the cat and mouse game will never work to your advantage especially if she just likes people chasing her around
Oh dude maybe you shuld tell her youll get her a green card and trust me she'll be sucking your penis in no time...
Oh and you think she likes you because when you asked her out she said she was busy???? UHhhhmm dude thats saying go away i'm sucking this other white guys penis....
It sounds like she is not that interested in you. She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If I were you, I would just stop talking to her. If she does like you she will try to start a conversation with you if you stop talking to her.
Um. Theres No Relationship By The Way..
Its Non existant At This Point.
Best Advice.
Be Persistant.
ASker Out AGain And Again.
Till She Says Yes I Will.
Or I Dont Like You.
Till Then.
Grow Some Testicles.
And Have Confidence.
Trust Me.
Confidence = sexy.
well no i am a girl and i would not like a guy to rush thing but just do what your doing and as the time is going like move up step by step but not to fast and you well do fine!
she is picky with words and she IS playing hard to get. its stupid she's doing that because it just gets ppl confused. idk how to solve this but either ask her whats her problem or just text her as much as she does u and maybe she'll come 2 u.
text:
tu mucho bonita
Maybe she is being overly nice to you but doesnt see you as her type?
shes picky. give her time
go up to her face and ask her, tell her to answer u now
Well im like that too im a girl and maybe she is acting that way because past relationships for example she probably was scarred real bad that she is afraid to like you back and to go real fast inside the relationship so she is probably hiding back wanting to go slow and trying to find time to move in . what you should do is give her your heart tell her everything from the heart do not plan it out or think out just say the first thing that comes from the heart out of your mouth and trust me she would be head over hills oh yeah don't text her have face to face confrontation and tell her.
Are these signs of an abusive boyfriend?
Just want to start off by saying, I dont think my boyfriends abusive but both my parents and my friends dont like him and think that this is the start of an abusive relationship. SO Im asking you guys.
Im 14 and my boyfriends 15. Im crazy about him and from what I can tell, hes crazy about me.
He always tells me how much he loves me and that Im beautiful and sexy and everything sweet you could possibly think of. He tells me he wants to marry me when were old enough and he wants to be with me forever. One time he told me that if I ever dumped him he would kill himself and hes really protective of me.
Hes a pretty violent kid to be honest, he gets into fights a lot with other boys and takes boxing and judo. Sometimes he slaps me around a bit when were playing around. He doesnt do it very hard and hes not trying to hurt me, as I said, were just playing around. Apparently he thinks its funny that his best friend punched his girlfriend in the face.
He calls me vulgar names and hurts my feelings a lot, but I guess thats just his sense of humour because he tells me hes only joking, but hes just as rude to me when hes actually mad - which is a lot.
He reads my conversations with my friends on msn and goes through my texts and gets really upset if I wont let him see me, but if I show him he usually gets mad at what I talk to my friends about. But I think thats just because he says he doesnt like them.
Personally, none of this really bothers me. The only thing that bugs me is that sometimes I wonder if he uses me for sexual stuff because he talks to a lot of other girls and always comments on how hot they are or whatever and if I complain about it he always tells me ';Oh you know your the only one for me';
I dont know, what do you think?Are these signs of an abusive boyfriend?
I think he is a dumbass. And you need to wake up.Are these signs of an abusive boyfriend?
Dump him! My best friend is dating a guy like that and im trying to help her get away from him, but she still thinks hes perfect. ITs just a matter of time before ur mom is calling 911 when she walks in and ur on the floor and ur boyfriends standing there with his fist raised. Trust me , it happens. Plz plz plz plz plz plz plz dump him. He isnt STARTING to be abusive, he IS
any boy, even when kidding, says rude things, is bad. it may not bother you, but it's wrong. trust me when I say this, I had to see enough people get abused through relationships, and it started JUST like this. please get out.
you really need to get out of this relationship. he's clearly really possessive and the way he calls you names, that's not right.
This is totally crazy
For the name calling:
Don't yoiu think he's acting a bit like a bully? I would not take any of the name calling from even my friends!
LEAVE HIM!!
I had a boyfriend like that.
It will get wworse, he needs help
I thnk you need you to find a aT to end things with him... He is bad news....
Okay, please listen to me, nobody else has experienced this, I have. I watched my sister get pregnant by a guy who was verbally abusive (that is what they call the vulgar name calling when used to hurt someone). When she told him she was pregnant, he punched her in the stomach and said ';It will be dead now';. He didn't really love her. These types of guys are sick and twisted and some of them grow up to rape girls. The facts are (I read A LOT of informative articles, please believe me) that dating abuse has gone up in recent years and we need to put a stop to this. He is abusing you physically when he ';playfully slaps you around';. It will get harder and more violent. Please tell a counselor at your school and ask to be put in a safe place (have family and friends watch over you). If you dump him, he may hurt you or himself, so please protect yourself. There is a program at my school called ED (Emotional Disturbance). If he is proven to be abusing you, he should be put in a behavior monitoring program like that, most counties and states have those classes. The facts are that he will hurt you and you could end up really hurt. If he found punching as girl funny, what could he do to you? Call this number if you aren't convinced it is abuse (tell them your story and they will help):1-866-331-9474
the website: http://www.loveisrespect.org/
I did a project on abusive relationships for school a few months ago, and this is basically like a description of almost every kind of ';signs'; there are. But at the same time, just like you said, it's very hard to know, especially when there isn't a completely clear boundary between ';just playing around'; and actual abuse.
It seems to me like this isn't an abusive relationship, just one where the guy is a bit more controlling than he should be. But you want to make sure you confront him about it and pay attention to when the over-controlling can become too-controlling or even abusive, because when one person has a lot of power in a relationship sometimes they take advantage of that power. Don't ignore your parents and friends since they're just trying to look out for you, but at the same time it is YOUR life after all, you just need to make sure you're still in full control of it. If something ';abusive'; does happen, though, confront him immediately, and if it continues to happen, dump him. You don't deserve that kind of crap.
Hope I helped, and good luck [=
Yes. First, he EMOTIONALLY abuses you.
I read in Seventeen that a red flag and sign of abuse is when they say they'd kill themselves if you broke up with them. They want you tied down.
He reads your personal texts, ehem?!
Look, this kid is trouble. Run. Fast.
The longer you stay with him, the worse it'll get, TRUST ME.
You will get yourself into deep shiaatt.
The sole fact that he thinks it's funny to hit girls would make me not want to be with someone like that.
If you are truly worried about him, get him help, but don't let him be your problem anymore.
Sure, the good times are good, but the bad times defeat it all.
You and I both know that, and so do your parents. 95% of the time they can truly tell.
Your doubt is coming through, and there are so many reg flags in this situation, and signs of abuse already.
OMG my bf was just like that and i let the situation get really bad... he almost killed me... me, parker (bf), and one of my friends rusty were sitting in the back of my truck and we had a trailor hooked up to it. and i was in the middle of the boys sitting up and they were laying down. parker leaned foward and pushed me, i lost my balance, and he was going to let me fall. thankfully rusty was there, cause he caught me or else i would have hit my head on the trailor hitch. Parker was 14 and me and rusty were 13.
really i dont think he is a good boyfriend your parents are right its true that sometimes you parents can see what you can't in a boy but yes if he calls you vulgar mean names he thinks it funny that his friend punched a girl in the face thats not good if he wasnt mad about that then thats not good and he sounds kinda controlling just think if you married him he could become abusive. if it gets worse just get out if he kills himself it is his own fault and not yours he's just probably saying that to make sure that you don't leave. good luck though! btw im 14 to
okay i know that i am going to sound rude, but he is definitly bad news. you need to get rid of him with help. because he sounds very abusive. it may be tough, but he is almost definitly using you for you body. you seem like a great person, so i'm sure that you deserve better than that jerk. you need to tell an adult the next time he hits you.. even iof he says hes kidding. this is very important because it will only get worse from here.
good luck.
Yes he is abusive, he's a jackass, a douche bag, and a prick. You need to leave him asap. Tell your mother about this and I would suggest getting a restraining order against him because it could get serious, TRUST me you do not want to deal with someone beating you then having to deal with the court system and all of that (because from what it sounds like it could be leading to that). Like I said though, talk to your mom and go down to either the court house or the police station to talk about getting a restraining order. Good luck.
Leave him now!!!! Classic signs of abusiveness. I know as I have been there done that and left every single one of them that were like that. Now I have a wonderful man who treats me with respect, would never hit me, certainly would not think someone hitting their gf was funny, would not call me names (rarely only if we are in a fight and nver if we weren't fighting) Spying on you is wrong!!! Run don't walk Run away and find someone who will be nice to you!!!
See all of us are NOT wrong!!! Your parents love you and are only looking out for you like they will your whole life.
Im 14 and my boyfriends 15. Im crazy about him and from what I can tell, hes crazy about me.
He always tells me how much he loves me and that Im beautiful and sexy and everything sweet you could possibly think of. He tells me he wants to marry me when were old enough and he wants to be with me forever. One time he told me that if I ever dumped him he would kill himself and hes really protective of me.
Hes a pretty violent kid to be honest, he gets into fights a lot with other boys and takes boxing and judo. Sometimes he slaps me around a bit when were playing around. He doesnt do it very hard and hes not trying to hurt me, as I said, were just playing around. Apparently he thinks its funny that his best friend punched his girlfriend in the face.
He calls me vulgar names and hurts my feelings a lot, but I guess thats just his sense of humour because he tells me hes only joking, but hes just as rude to me when hes actually mad - which is a lot.
He reads my conversations with my friends on msn and goes through my texts and gets really upset if I wont let him see me, but if I show him he usually gets mad at what I talk to my friends about. But I think thats just because he says he doesnt like them.
Personally, none of this really bothers me. The only thing that bugs me is that sometimes I wonder if he uses me for sexual stuff because he talks to a lot of other girls and always comments on how hot they are or whatever and if I complain about it he always tells me ';Oh you know your the only one for me';
I dont know, what do you think?Are these signs of an abusive boyfriend?
I think he is a dumbass. And you need to wake up.Are these signs of an abusive boyfriend?
Dump him! My best friend is dating a guy like that and im trying to help her get away from him, but she still thinks hes perfect. ITs just a matter of time before ur mom is calling 911 when she walks in and ur on the floor and ur boyfriends standing there with his fist raised. Trust me , it happens. Plz plz plz plz plz plz plz dump him. He isnt STARTING to be abusive, he IS
any boy, even when kidding, says rude things, is bad. it may not bother you, but it's wrong. trust me when I say this, I had to see enough people get abused through relationships, and it started JUST like this. please get out.
you really need to get out of this relationship. he's clearly really possessive and the way he calls you names, that's not right.
This is totally crazy
For the name calling:
Don't yoiu think he's acting a bit like a bully? I would not take any of the name calling from even my friends!
LEAVE HIM!!
I had a boyfriend like that.
It will get wworse, he needs help
I thnk you need you to find a aT to end things with him... He is bad news....
Okay, please listen to me, nobody else has experienced this, I have. I watched my sister get pregnant by a guy who was verbally abusive (that is what they call the vulgar name calling when used to hurt someone). When she told him she was pregnant, he punched her in the stomach and said ';It will be dead now';. He didn't really love her. These types of guys are sick and twisted and some of them grow up to rape girls. The facts are (I read A LOT of informative articles, please believe me) that dating abuse has gone up in recent years and we need to put a stop to this. He is abusing you physically when he ';playfully slaps you around';. It will get harder and more violent. Please tell a counselor at your school and ask to be put in a safe place (have family and friends watch over you). If you dump him, he may hurt you or himself, so please protect yourself. There is a program at my school called ED (Emotional Disturbance). If he is proven to be abusing you, he should be put in a behavior monitoring program like that, most counties and states have those classes. The facts are that he will hurt you and you could end up really hurt. If he found punching as girl funny, what could he do to you? Call this number if you aren't convinced it is abuse (tell them your story and they will help):1-866-331-9474
the website: http://www.loveisrespect.org/
I did a project on abusive relationships for school a few months ago, and this is basically like a description of almost every kind of ';signs'; there are. But at the same time, just like you said, it's very hard to know, especially when there isn't a completely clear boundary between ';just playing around'; and actual abuse.
It seems to me like this isn't an abusive relationship, just one where the guy is a bit more controlling than he should be. But you want to make sure you confront him about it and pay attention to when the over-controlling can become too-controlling or even abusive, because when one person has a lot of power in a relationship sometimes they take advantage of that power. Don't ignore your parents and friends since they're just trying to look out for you, but at the same time it is YOUR life after all, you just need to make sure you're still in full control of it. If something ';abusive'; does happen, though, confront him immediately, and if it continues to happen, dump him. You don't deserve that kind of crap.
Hope I helped, and good luck [=
Yes. First, he EMOTIONALLY abuses you.
I read in Seventeen that a red flag and sign of abuse is when they say they'd kill themselves if you broke up with them. They want you tied down.
He reads your personal texts, ehem?!
Look, this kid is trouble. Run. Fast.
The longer you stay with him, the worse it'll get, TRUST ME.
You will get yourself into deep shiaatt.
The sole fact that he thinks it's funny to hit girls would make me not want to be with someone like that.
If you are truly worried about him, get him help, but don't let him be your problem anymore.
Sure, the good times are good, but the bad times defeat it all.
You and I both know that, and so do your parents. 95% of the time they can truly tell.
Your doubt is coming through, and there are so many reg flags in this situation, and signs of abuse already.
OMG my bf was just like that and i let the situation get really bad... he almost killed me... me, parker (bf), and one of my friends rusty were sitting in the back of my truck and we had a trailor hooked up to it. and i was in the middle of the boys sitting up and they were laying down. parker leaned foward and pushed me, i lost my balance, and he was going to let me fall. thankfully rusty was there, cause he caught me or else i would have hit my head on the trailor hitch. Parker was 14 and me and rusty were 13.
really i dont think he is a good boyfriend your parents are right its true that sometimes you parents can see what you can't in a boy but yes if he calls you vulgar mean names he thinks it funny that his friend punched a girl in the face thats not good if he wasnt mad about that then thats not good and he sounds kinda controlling just think if you married him he could become abusive. if it gets worse just get out if he kills himself it is his own fault and not yours he's just probably saying that to make sure that you don't leave. good luck though! btw im 14 to
okay i know that i am going to sound rude, but he is definitly bad news. you need to get rid of him with help. because he sounds very abusive. it may be tough, but he is almost definitly using you for you body. you seem like a great person, so i'm sure that you deserve better than that jerk. you need to tell an adult the next time he hits you.. even iof he says hes kidding. this is very important because it will only get worse from here.
good luck.
Yes he is abusive, he's a jackass, a douche bag, and a prick. You need to leave him asap. Tell your mother about this and I would suggest getting a restraining order against him because it could get serious, TRUST me you do not want to deal with someone beating you then having to deal with the court system and all of that (because from what it sounds like it could be leading to that). Like I said though, talk to your mom and go down to either the court house or the police station to talk about getting a restraining order. Good luck.
Leave him now!!!! Classic signs of abusiveness. I know as I have been there done that and left every single one of them that were like that. Now I have a wonderful man who treats me with respect, would never hit me, certainly would not think someone hitting their gf was funny, would not call me names (rarely only if we are in a fight and nver if we weren't fighting) Spying on you is wrong!!! Run don't walk Run away and find someone who will be nice to you!!!
See all of us are NOT wrong!!! Your parents love you and are only looking out for you like they will your whole life.
What do you think of my song?
Be truthful please because I want to improve it as I know it's bad :/ haa x
I鈥檓 in my room doing homework you get boys to do,
No foundation on my face 鈥榗os you鈥檝e got it all on you.
And you鈥檙e listening to the tunes that you think are cool,
And dancing to JLS like an obsessive fool
It鈥檚 hard to believe we have the same blood,
As you act real gangster in your boyfriends hood.
Hey little girl; you鈥檙e still only a child,
Lay off the clinique shizz and go a bit wild.
Who says that you should fake through life?
And hang out with guys who carry penknives?
You can do better than that, don鈥檛 you think?
You can put me before those who鈥檒l just let you sink.
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
So you鈥檙e an expert on playing boys and throwing them away,
Yeah, you鈥檙e really the girl of their dreams, hey?
nicking beer from the fridge is how you have fun,
Not Capri-sun fights in the kitchen or prank calls at one.
You smell like Lynx and self neglect,
You鈥檙e like an overdone emo with less self respect.
Fake tan on your arms and lip gloss on your shirt,
Seriously girl, this is gonna get you hurt.
Who says that you should backstab through this?
And hang out with guys who just want you to kiss?
You can do better than that, don鈥檛 you think?
You can put away the hate, the mini skirts, the drink.
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
Oh, you didn鈥檛 put me first,
And you took the guy I like.
Couldn鈥檛 you just stick with the
One who wore Henleys and Nike?
It鈥檚 impossible for you,
To let me have one part.
Can I forgive you,
For again breaking my heart?
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
Live and Let live.
That鈥檚 not how you play.
Live, live, live.
Ooh.
xWhat do you think of my song?
amazing!..... but the penknive guy part was a bit 2 freak-ish that was a really nice song and i think taylor swift shud sing it....it goes with her song types unless u wanna sing it urself which(not 2 be negative) wont be rly fameous but it was an awesome song!What do you think of my song?
Pretty good song. Expresses alot of feelings.
Those are lyrics, not a song.
i think its awesome!
I鈥檓 in my room doing homework you get boys to do,
No foundation on my face 鈥榗os you鈥檝e got it all on you.
And you鈥檙e listening to the tunes that you think are cool,
And dancing to JLS like an obsessive fool
It鈥檚 hard to believe we have the same blood,
As you act real gangster in your boyfriends hood.
Hey little girl; you鈥檙e still only a child,
Lay off the clinique shizz and go a bit wild.
Who says that you should fake through life?
And hang out with guys who carry penknives?
You can do better than that, don鈥檛 you think?
You can put me before those who鈥檒l just let you sink.
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
So you鈥檙e an expert on playing boys and throwing them away,
Yeah, you鈥檙e really the girl of their dreams, hey?
nicking beer from the fridge is how you have fun,
Not Capri-sun fights in the kitchen or prank calls at one.
You smell like Lynx and self neglect,
You鈥檙e like an overdone emo with less self respect.
Fake tan on your arms and lip gloss on your shirt,
Seriously girl, this is gonna get you hurt.
Who says that you should backstab through this?
And hang out with guys who just want you to kiss?
You can do better than that, don鈥檛 you think?
You can put away the hate, the mini skirts, the drink.
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
Oh, you didn鈥檛 put me first,
And you took the guy I like.
Couldn鈥檛 you just stick with the
One who wore Henleys and Nike?
It鈥檚 impossible for you,
To let me have one part.
Can I forgive you,
For again breaking my heart?
Just live, live, live.
Live and let live.
Leave me alone and fix out yourself.
Oooh, Leave me alone until you change yourself.
Live, live, live
Live and Let live.
That鈥檚 not how you play.
Live, live, live.
Ooh.
xWhat do you think of my song?
amazing!..... but the penknive guy part was a bit 2 freak-ish that was a really nice song and i think taylor swift shud sing it....it goes with her song types unless u wanna sing it urself which(not 2 be negative) wont be rly fameous but it was an awesome song!What do you think of my song?
Pretty good song. Expresses alot of feelings.
Those are lyrics, not a song.
i think its awesome!
Please Help??? Easy ten points!!!!! and Kinda funny?
So we are in college, so we have to study alot. The only way I could get him to remember his stuff was to associate studying with sex. Like if you get it right than I'll play with your junk, get it wrong than I'll will stop for a while, and he would do the same for me. Anyway needless to say he loves to study with me be we are having a side effect. Now all I have to do I open my book bag and he is getting a hard on/ talk about having to study he gets a hard on. ';How can I stop this?'; or is it out of my control? He a great boyfriend, I've been with him for almost 4 yrs now. I would just like him not to have a ***** erverytime he hears the ';S'; word... Study
Please Help?Please Help??? Easy ten points!!!!! and Kinda funny?
Stop equating sex with studying. Try to fool around outside of the study books lol Youve got him trained like a cat. He hears the can opener and thinks its followed by a can of tuna lol
Fool around outside of the study game and he will stop for sure.Please Help??? Easy ten points!!!!! and Kinda funny?
Hmmm. I'm having a similar problem. except that's what i want and when we study he really does study. I even dressed up like a school girl and still he really studied. So if i were you i would enjoy it while it lasts. He won't be like that forever, trust me soon he will realize that studying is hard work, without the hard-on. And something else (hopefully you) will be the only thing getting him hard.
another way to change it: associate right answers with food. thats always a winner.
well its too late now....
he got use to hearing that from you and he instantly gets one...
so now what u will have to practice by using another technique for studying that will not get him active..you should let him noe that he has to relax and that u will only have ';S'; wit him if he stops to getting excited all the time....this should make him not wanna get excited at the wrong times...that way when u want to do it wit him,,he will only get excited at those times...
i guess it depends if he's a good study partner. if he is then u should just tell him to stop and that that method is getting old. but if he's not a good study partner common sense tells u to get a new one!
Oh my god thats hilarious!
to stop maybe you could just not study?
no seriously. Try and phase it out, like do less sexual things while studying and eventually it should fade away.
Hahaha that IS funny! ok do you keep studying with him now? If you do, then I think its ok... just dont say ';study'; around him lol. If u dont study with him anymore give him a long talk....thats all I have. good luck though!
This is sort of out of your control. Sorry to say but maybe you guys should stop studying for a while and he'll forget all about...
that is about all the advice i can give
Good Luck.
up the ante. intercourse for A's, oral for B's, hand for C's, and you get to do someone else for D'd and F's, then you'll see how much he really likes you.
Sounds like Pavlov's dog. Maybe you should condition him to associate studying with something else.
heehee it looks like you've conditioned him to think of sex while studying. just stop using sex as a reward for studying, that should do the trick
Get an ugly girl or guy to join your study group or smack it with a spoon when he gets erect. that will break the pattern.
ha ha. this is hilarious. i would try the reverse affect. like whenever u study pinch him or something.
Do what they did in Billy Madison; have him close his eyes and swap yourself for a fat white guy
Stop studying with him.
outa your control
ask him harder questions
uh guys are like dogs you trained him to be like that...
Please Help?Please Help??? Easy ten points!!!!! and Kinda funny?
Stop equating sex with studying. Try to fool around outside of the study books lol Youve got him trained like a cat. He hears the can opener and thinks its followed by a can of tuna lol
Fool around outside of the study game and he will stop for sure.Please Help??? Easy ten points!!!!! and Kinda funny?
Hmmm. I'm having a similar problem. except that's what i want and when we study he really does study. I even dressed up like a school girl and still he really studied. So if i were you i would enjoy it while it lasts. He won't be like that forever, trust me soon he will realize that studying is hard work, without the hard-on. And something else (hopefully you) will be the only thing getting him hard.
another way to change it: associate right answers with food. thats always a winner.
well its too late now....
he got use to hearing that from you and he instantly gets one...
so now what u will have to practice by using another technique for studying that will not get him active..you should let him noe that he has to relax and that u will only have ';S'; wit him if he stops to getting excited all the time....this should make him not wanna get excited at the wrong times...that way when u want to do it wit him,,he will only get excited at those times...
i guess it depends if he's a good study partner. if he is then u should just tell him to stop and that that method is getting old. but if he's not a good study partner common sense tells u to get a new one!
Oh my god thats hilarious!
to stop maybe you could just not study?
no seriously. Try and phase it out, like do less sexual things while studying and eventually it should fade away.
Hahaha that IS funny! ok do you keep studying with him now? If you do, then I think its ok... just dont say ';study'; around him lol. If u dont study with him anymore give him a long talk....thats all I have. good luck though!
This is sort of out of your control. Sorry to say but maybe you guys should stop studying for a while and he'll forget all about...
that is about all the advice i can give
Good Luck.
up the ante. intercourse for A's, oral for B's, hand for C's, and you get to do someone else for D'd and F's, then you'll see how much he really likes you.
Sounds like Pavlov's dog. Maybe you should condition him to associate studying with something else.
heehee it looks like you've conditioned him to think of sex while studying. just stop using sex as a reward for studying, that should do the trick
Get an ugly girl or guy to join your study group or smack it with a spoon when he gets erect. that will break the pattern.
ha ha. this is hilarious. i would try the reverse affect. like whenever u study pinch him or something.
Do what they did in Billy Madison; have him close his eyes and swap yourself for a fat white guy
Stop studying with him.
outa your control
ask him harder questions
uh guys are like dogs you trained him to be like that...
Am I missing The Big Picture??
This is what i sent her on facebook
Um, yea...i have no idea how to say this, theres something about you, thats making you really hard to let go of, i dont know what it is, i think your beautiful, im sure you hear that all the time though, but i dont know **** about you, everytime ive tried to get to know you, youve just ignored me, but at the same time you havent really told me your not interested, i do realize that you dont have to explain **** to me, because where hardly acquaintances, but i wanted to propose that you tell me how you really feel about the whole thing, i understand ive come off as a bit of a creep and im sorry, i didnt mean to, i was going through some hard times and i was abit emotional, so why dont we try skype? we can talk talk over it and you still remain completely anonymous, its your choice...
This was her response
here's the thing matt, I really don't know you and I do know that my
boyfriend would not want me skyping with anyone but him. Sorry, have a good summer.
Maybe im just delusional(probably) bit she still hasnt really said shes not interested, it almost seems like shes playing hard to get...Am I missing The Big Picture??
She's OBVIOUSLY not interest. and wtf you don't even know her in real life? MAJOR CREEP.
she is not playing hard to get :| she just told you ';my boyfriend...'; she's obviously giving you a hint to back off cause she's taken.Am I missing The Big Picture??
Yes, she did say she's not interested. She let you know that she has a boyfriend, and was extremely brief with you. Also, she left no room for more discussion when she ended it with ';have a good summer';. She was as plain as the nose on your face. Move on.
Um, yea...i have no idea how to say this, theres something about you, thats making you really hard to let go of, i dont know what it is, i think your beautiful, im sure you hear that all the time though, but i dont know **** about you, everytime ive tried to get to know you, youve just ignored me, but at the same time you havent really told me your not interested, i do realize that you dont have to explain **** to me, because where hardly acquaintances, but i wanted to propose that you tell me how you really feel about the whole thing, i understand ive come off as a bit of a creep and im sorry, i didnt mean to, i was going through some hard times and i was abit emotional, so why dont we try skype? we can talk talk over it and you still remain completely anonymous, its your choice...
This was her response
here's the thing matt, I really don't know you and I do know that my
boyfriend would not want me skyping with anyone but him. Sorry, have a good summer.
Maybe im just delusional(probably) bit she still hasnt really said shes not interested, it almost seems like shes playing hard to get...Am I missing The Big Picture??
She's OBVIOUSLY not interest. and wtf you don't even know her in real life? MAJOR CREEP.
she is not playing hard to get :| she just told you ';my boyfriend...'; she's obviously giving you a hint to back off cause she's taken.Am I missing The Big Picture??
Yes, she did say she's not interested. She let you know that she has a boyfriend, and was extremely brief with you. Also, she left no room for more discussion when she ended it with ';have a good summer';. She was as plain as the nose on your face. Move on.
My EX-boyfriend, has anyone ever felt this way/ why is the hardest part letting go.?
its been like since august when me and my ex broke up. He broke up with me because i hurt him, not intensionally i never wanted to let him go, i cried and told how i felt over and over. Than when school started it go really hard i can't get over him, he was in 1 class of mine this semester and all he did was look at me out of the corner of his eye, and watch me sometimes, everywhere in the school i was i would see him. Now its almost febuary and i still really like him , like i can't seem to let go , i miss him everytime i see him and pretty surei have 3 classes with him this semester. I wanna tell him how i feel he told a friend a couple weeks back that he misses how it was. But he never tells me these things, we dont hardly talk cause i dont think we can be just friends. I wanna tell him how i feel so bad, but im not sure if he knows. Is it my vice to make the move and tell him how i feel or keep playing this hide and seek game to avoid admiting it. Whats your opinion %26lt;/3My EX-boyfriend, has anyone ever felt this way/ why is the hardest part letting go.?
Well, did you ever say it was an accident?
If you didn't, then it's up to you to make the move.
I you told him, then you could try talking to him.
From what I can tell he still may like you, since he happens to be everywhere you are, one or two times are a coincidence, more than that and there's a reason for him being everywhere you are. It's also a decent sign if he is watching, even if it's only out of the corner of his eye.
Try getting back together with him, it never hurts to try, but it hurts to wonder, trust me, I've been there.
Well, did you ever say it was an accident?
If you didn't, then it's up to you to make the move.
I you told him, then you could try talking to him.
From what I can tell he still may like you, since he happens to be everywhere you are, one or two times are a coincidence, more than that and there's a reason for him being everywhere you are. It's also a decent sign if he is watching, even if it's only out of the corner of his eye.
Try getting back together with him, it never hurts to try, but it hurts to wonder, trust me, I've been there.
High school?
I'm going to be a Freshman at a huge high school next year. I think it has , roughly, 2000 people.
Huge, I know?
Anyways I'm just curious and have a few questions that I would like you to answer about your high school experience.
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it?
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.?
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little?
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman?
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend?
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?
8. Did you ever get lost in your school?
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average?
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you?
Thanks in advance!High school?
i got to a school with 800 more ppl know THATS big
my first day was awesome because i saw people i graduated with and made freinds immediately and made freinds in summer programs for my school (something you should do to meet people so you wo't be lost the first day)
the classes were 6 on a scale of 1-10
i'm not labeled in school becaus ei hang out with a variety of different peoplei try to surrond myself around people who are just funa and not based on social status.
i have a lot of freinds so far
i was freinds with a sophomore
i dont have a bf yet
i didn;t play any sports my freshman year
i didn;t get lost the first day because in the summer program i got to learn my way around without a lot of people in the school
i'm more of a pretty girl
no one judged me to my faceHigh school?
1. Yes. I was very nervous and tried to talk to a lot of people. I had a little bit pf trouble getting around school.
2. 6
3. I wasn't really anything. I was just there. There weren't many cliques anyways.
4. Little, but I was happy with that.
5.With one sophomore, he was a nice kid.
6. Junior year
7.No
8. At first yes, but then I knew the school like the back of my hand.
9. No, just average.
10. No
Good Luck in HS. You will have fun and learn a lot. Just relax and remember that HS is a lot different than middle school, so be prepared for changes. Just be yourself and you will be fine.
1. Scared to death. I was in a very large high school. Our class had 1,000 and was the largest to graduate there when they finally built a new one
2. Classes were not any harder than Jr. High
3. I was a semi-popular nerd
4. I had a lot of friends (more my senior year)
5. Yes. Had a lot of friends/classmates that were in my classes in upper grades and they wanted to sit by me to copy off my tests. Got busted once in Spanish, but I did not get in trouble. . . .he did
6. It was my first year
7. I played volley ball and loved it. Also in modern dance and it kept me in good shape
8. No
9. I was pretty but not considered ';hot';. . . .I was too modest
10. That is part of being in high school however I think teenagers are a lot less shallow now than they were when I was in school. I have a teenager and I will ask him what he thinks about a certain girl and he will say, ';I don't know, I would have to get to know her first.'; THAT makes me very proud of him. Good luck honey.
my HS has 4500 ppl
1. kinda nervous but i knew sum ppl from football
2.6(i was in honors classes)
3, i'd say popular,because i hung out with everybody
4. alot
5.not really
6.sophmore
7.football
8.lol yes
9. s lil of both
10. i dunno
1.not rly
2.7
3.popular
4.a lot
5. yeaahh
6.7th
7.volleyball and gymnastics hard but fun
8. yes... a lot durig the first couple days of school
9.pretty/hot
10.some of them you know like they think your a slut or something when they dont even know you
yes ido .. it was horrible bc i knew nobody, i had just moved here ..
7
not popular, but not a nerd lmao.
a few .. i made some:] lmao
yeah
umm my age
no
yeah
average
nope .. they were just like omg ur a cali girl!! lol.
i cant say because i am also going to be a freshman next year, but our school is pretty small!
1. it was a little confusing but not to bad
2. depends i have hard ones and easy
3. idk, not really one
4. a lot
5. yeah
6. still a freshman, havn't had one
7. water polo, really hard, lot of practice, fun, met upperclassmen, met one of my best friends
8. only the first week
9. average
10. no
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it?
yup, there was a freshman day, where the rest of the upperclassmen didnt have school yet, so we could get used to it without so many people, my school huge too
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?
well now they're like 7-8ish hard
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.?
now, id say im popular
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little?
i have little close friends that i hang out with alot, but lots of just casual friends
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman?
yup, i know alot of my brother's friends, their sister, and a bunch of sophmores from my old middle school
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend?
i dont have one now
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?
volleyball and soccer. i encourage you to get as involved as you can
8. Did you ever get lost in your school?
yeah, lol, i got my schedule mixed up, and went to jewlery 3rd period instead of study hall, and the wrong health room
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average?
both ;]
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you?
sort of, by like what you wore, like preppy, emo, skater, ghetto...lol :]
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it? I felt very young and lost lol
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?1. Freshman year classes are a piece of cake.
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.? I'm more of a unique, shy, quite, dorky girl.
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little? I never have had a room of friends lol. I have gotten really close friends from highschool though
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman? Yup, most of my friends when I was a freshman were juniors and seniors
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend? 9th
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?None
8. Did you ever get lost in your school? Yes the first week lol.
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average? I'm the average.
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you? They judge you from how you act in class the first week. I was always different because I am pretty quite so I was labeled with the outcasts. But I'm glad because who cares =). I have the best friends in the world.
1. yes, had to eat in bathroom
2. 3 but i have photographic memory
3. outcast
4. alot
5. no
6. age: 15 grade: 10
7. yes, basketball, tough
8. no
9. hot
10. yes
1 I don't rmember the first day of any of my school years
2 about a 5
3 popular
4 I had enough friends
5 most of them, actually
6 I'm a guy, so I never had a high school boyfriend
7 I played football, soccer, and wrestled every year, and it was awesome, though quite challenging
8 never
9 average
10 I'm sure somebody probably did, but I've never let other people's opinion control my life,so if they did i probably just blew it off
It's really important to be yourself in high school. It's gonna be a long, hard four years if you let what other people think shape your life.
1. I was extremely scared but then I realized it wasn't that bad.
2. 6
3. I am myself. I hang out with all different types of people.
4. I have a lot of friends.
5. I've been friends with upperclassmen all 3 years.
6. The summer before I started my freshman year.
7. No I've been a trainer though for basketball, wrestling, volleyball, and track. It's been a lot of fun.
8. I did not.
9. Average.
10. Some people did but most people didnt.
1. Yeah, I didnt know anybody (other than a few girls I met over summer at a campground), I was new to the area and to the school. At first, I was like, ';Where the hell are all my classes';, since the school was so huge. It took me about 15 minutes to get to any class, so I was late to every class that day, it was horrible. Whenever I came to my classes I just came in and sat down, ignoring everybody but the teacher. After a while, I began to observe the other students and ask around who's who. Soon I started talking with some kids, and became their friends if I liked them.
2. My first period was a 10, second period was a 8, third period was a 7, and fourth period was a 8.
3. Im not sure, I was really different from everybody. I just came up with whatever I wanted to feel or think. Nobody could mess with me, I was untouchable. I didnt care about what anybody said or did, unless they were somebody I respected like my friends or the school staff (like the teachers and nurses).
4. I already had about 4 friends before I started going there, but they werent in any of my classes, so its like it didnt matter, although one of them had my lunch. By the time I finished that year of school, I had about 10 really good friends, and about 50 others kids I just talked to everyday.
5. Not really, most of them were people I didnt want to hang around with. Besides, if you get any upperclassman friends, everybody begins to talk about or bother you, so just stick with people in your grade.
6. Personally, I dont care about going out with anybody yet, I want to wait until I really need to buy things for other people (like when I get a job). I believe starting that stuff as a freshman is way too early, you will waste your money and be heartbroken many times until you find the right person.
7. I wanted to get into soccer or basketball, but I never could find the right people to talk to, so I just joined ROTC and considered that my sport.
8. Lots of times, about every class change for the first few days. Thankfully my third period teacher gave me a school map.
9. I dont even know, I didnt care about what I was to anybody else, I just knew that I was there for them, and to have tons of fun with each other.
10. Once again, I dont know (or care) how others judged me when I first game there. If you dont care about the ones you dislike, then its nearly impossible for them to bother you.
I hope this can help you out in your upcoming Freshman year!
1. On the first day of high school in the 8th grade. There was speculation that newbies would be put into a dumpster by the upper class men.
2. The classes weren't hard and didn't affect our school credit until the 9th grade.
3. I was a loner.
4. Yes, I did have a group of friends who were in a higher grade.
5. I didn't have a high school boyfriend. I think that would've been hard since gay teens at my school used to get hassled.
6. I didn't play on a sports team in high school.
7. No. I knew my school pretty well but sometimes I would get lost on propose because i didn't want to go to class.
8. I was pretty average. lol.
10. Yes. I was judge because of my sexuality.
I knew i skiped number 4.
I knew alot of people in high school. I had alot of female friends but I didn't have alot of male friends. I had a few guys who I hung out with.
That's my experience but your experience my be completely different. I haven't been in high school in years.
High school isn't this super scary place that's gonna like swallow you whole if you're not cool. I look back now and laugh at how scared I was because it's stupid. Everything that you expect to go wrong usually doesn't. Things probably will go wrong if you're terrified. Basically the things in your questions don't even matter. They might seem important now, but they won't later. Sorry I don't have any answers for you except just don't stress and be you.
Hi,
I go to high school in England, which is a bit diiferent to America. High school is from age 11 to 18 here.
1. Yes - I was very nervous. Luckily I was put into the same class as my best friend from my previos school, so I was pleased. I'm not really outgoing so I think it was best I was with someone I knew well.
2. not really hard, just go up in difficultly gradually
3. None
4. Few best friends at first, now (I'm 16) loads!
5. no
6. Still haven't!
7. not really sporty in school
8. my school is pretty big - about 1700 people, but I never got lost as all the new kids stick together!
9.average I'd say
10. Not sure really
Good luck, honestly high schools great fun :)
ED
1. Really awkward having a teacher walk me from class to class.
2.well since your new every one is going to give you the ';new kid'; freebie.
3. I would have to say Nerd, musician, gamer, skater
4.i have a close nit group, small but really loyal
5.yeah i got along better with older people because i skated with them, and wasent really immature
6.I was 16 when i got my first real girlfriend
7.I played foot ball for 1 year
8. yeah
9.I guess average
10.yeah i think they did but it wasent a bad thing
none of those questions matter
just be yourself
no one else can make you ';cool';
dont try to hard
be outgoing
Huge, I know?
Anyways I'm just curious and have a few questions that I would like you to answer about your high school experience.
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it?
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.?
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little?
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman?
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend?
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?
8. Did you ever get lost in your school?
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average?
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you?
Thanks in advance!High school?
i got to a school with 800 more ppl know THATS big
my first day was awesome because i saw people i graduated with and made freinds immediately and made freinds in summer programs for my school (something you should do to meet people so you wo't be lost the first day)
the classes were 6 on a scale of 1-10
i'm not labeled in school becaus ei hang out with a variety of different peoplei try to surrond myself around people who are just funa and not based on social status.
i have a lot of freinds so far
i was freinds with a sophomore
i dont have a bf yet
i didn;t play any sports my freshman year
i didn;t get lost the first day because in the summer program i got to learn my way around without a lot of people in the school
i'm more of a pretty girl
no one judged me to my faceHigh school?
1. Yes. I was very nervous and tried to talk to a lot of people. I had a little bit pf trouble getting around school.
2. 6
3. I wasn't really anything. I was just there. There weren't many cliques anyways.
4. Little, but I was happy with that.
5.With one sophomore, he was a nice kid.
6. Junior year
7.No
8. At first yes, but then I knew the school like the back of my hand.
9. No, just average.
10. No
Good Luck in HS. You will have fun and learn a lot. Just relax and remember that HS is a lot different than middle school, so be prepared for changes. Just be yourself and you will be fine.
1. Scared to death. I was in a very large high school. Our class had 1,000 and was the largest to graduate there when they finally built a new one
2. Classes were not any harder than Jr. High
3. I was a semi-popular nerd
4. I had a lot of friends (more my senior year)
5. Yes. Had a lot of friends/classmates that were in my classes in upper grades and they wanted to sit by me to copy off my tests. Got busted once in Spanish, but I did not get in trouble. . . .he did
6. It was my first year
7. I played volley ball and loved it. Also in modern dance and it kept me in good shape
8. No
9. I was pretty but not considered ';hot';. . . .I was too modest
10. That is part of being in high school however I think teenagers are a lot less shallow now than they were when I was in school. I have a teenager and I will ask him what he thinks about a certain girl and he will say, ';I don't know, I would have to get to know her first.'; THAT makes me very proud of him. Good luck honey.
my HS has 4500 ppl
1. kinda nervous but i knew sum ppl from football
2.6(i was in honors classes)
3, i'd say popular,because i hung out with everybody
4. alot
5.not really
6.sophmore
7.football
8.lol yes
9. s lil of both
10. i dunno
1.not rly
2.7
3.popular
4.a lot
5. yeaahh
6.7th
7.volleyball and gymnastics hard but fun
8. yes... a lot durig the first couple days of school
9.pretty/hot
10.some of them you know like they think your a slut or something when they dont even know you
yes ido .. it was horrible bc i knew nobody, i had just moved here ..
7
not popular, but not a nerd lmao.
a few .. i made some:] lmao
yeah
umm my age
no
yeah
average
nope .. they were just like omg ur a cali girl!! lol.
i cant say because i am also going to be a freshman next year, but our school is pretty small!
1. it was a little confusing but not to bad
2. depends i have hard ones and easy
3. idk, not really one
4. a lot
5. yeah
6. still a freshman, havn't had one
7. water polo, really hard, lot of practice, fun, met upperclassmen, met one of my best friends
8. only the first week
9. average
10. no
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it?
yup, there was a freshman day, where the rest of the upperclassmen didnt have school yet, so we could get used to it without so many people, my school huge too
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?
well now they're like 7-8ish hard
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.?
now, id say im popular
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little?
i have little close friends that i hang out with alot, but lots of just casual friends
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman?
yup, i know alot of my brother's friends, their sister, and a bunch of sophmores from my old middle school
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend?
i dont have one now
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?
volleyball and soccer. i encourage you to get as involved as you can
8. Did you ever get lost in your school?
yeah, lol, i got my schedule mixed up, and went to jewlery 3rd period instead of study hall, and the wrong health room
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average?
both ;]
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you?
sort of, by like what you wore, like preppy, emo, skater, ghetto...lol :]
1. Do you remember your first day of high school? If so, could you describe it? I felt very young and lost lol
2. How hard were the classes from 1-10?1. Freshman year classes are a piece of cake.
3. What would you say you were in high school? You know, popular, nerd, goth, etc.? I'm more of a unique, shy, quite, dorky girl.
4. Did you have a lot of friends, or a little? I never have had a room of friends lol. I have gotten really close friends from highschool though
5. Were you friends with any upperclassman? Yup, most of my friends when I was a freshman were juniors and seniors
6. What age/grade did you go out with your first high school boyfriend? 9th
7. Did you play any sports? If so, what and what was it like?None
8. Did you ever get lost in your school? Yes the first week lol.
9. Were you one of the pretty/hot types? Or were you just average? I'm the average.
10. Did everyone judge you from when they first met you? They judge you from how you act in class the first week. I was always different because I am pretty quite so I was labeled with the outcasts. But I'm glad because who cares =). I have the best friends in the world.
1. yes, had to eat in bathroom
2. 3 but i have photographic memory
3. outcast
4. alot
5. no
6. age: 15 grade: 10
7. yes, basketball, tough
8. no
9. hot
10. yes
1 I don't rmember the first day of any of my school years
2 about a 5
3 popular
4 I had enough friends
5 most of them, actually
6 I'm a guy, so I never had a high school boyfriend
7 I played football, soccer, and wrestled every year, and it was awesome, though quite challenging
8 never
9 average
10 I'm sure somebody probably did, but I've never let other people's opinion control my life,so if they did i probably just blew it off
It's really important to be yourself in high school. It's gonna be a long, hard four years if you let what other people think shape your life.
1. I was extremely scared but then I realized it wasn't that bad.
2. 6
3. I am myself. I hang out with all different types of people.
4. I have a lot of friends.
5. I've been friends with upperclassmen all 3 years.
6. The summer before I started my freshman year.
7. No I've been a trainer though for basketball, wrestling, volleyball, and track. It's been a lot of fun.
8. I did not.
9. Average.
10. Some people did but most people didnt.
1. Yeah, I didnt know anybody (other than a few girls I met over summer at a campground), I was new to the area and to the school. At first, I was like, ';Where the hell are all my classes';, since the school was so huge. It took me about 15 minutes to get to any class, so I was late to every class that day, it was horrible. Whenever I came to my classes I just came in and sat down, ignoring everybody but the teacher. After a while, I began to observe the other students and ask around who's who. Soon I started talking with some kids, and became their friends if I liked them.
2. My first period was a 10, second period was a 8, third period was a 7, and fourth period was a 8.
3. Im not sure, I was really different from everybody. I just came up with whatever I wanted to feel or think. Nobody could mess with me, I was untouchable. I didnt care about what anybody said or did, unless they were somebody I respected like my friends or the school staff (like the teachers and nurses).
4. I already had about 4 friends before I started going there, but they werent in any of my classes, so its like it didnt matter, although one of them had my lunch. By the time I finished that year of school, I had about 10 really good friends, and about 50 others kids I just talked to everyday.
5. Not really, most of them were people I didnt want to hang around with. Besides, if you get any upperclassman friends, everybody begins to talk about or bother you, so just stick with people in your grade.
6. Personally, I dont care about going out with anybody yet, I want to wait until I really need to buy things for other people (like when I get a job). I believe starting that stuff as a freshman is way too early, you will waste your money and be heartbroken many times until you find the right person.
7. I wanted to get into soccer or basketball, but I never could find the right people to talk to, so I just joined ROTC and considered that my sport.
8. Lots of times, about every class change for the first few days. Thankfully my third period teacher gave me a school map.
9. I dont even know, I didnt care about what I was to anybody else, I just knew that I was there for them, and to have tons of fun with each other.
10. Once again, I dont know (or care) how others judged me when I first game there. If you dont care about the ones you dislike, then its nearly impossible for them to bother you.
I hope this can help you out in your upcoming Freshman year!
1. On the first day of high school in the 8th grade. There was speculation that newbies would be put into a dumpster by the upper class men.
2. The classes weren't hard and didn't affect our school credit until the 9th grade.
3. I was a loner.
4. Yes, I did have a group of friends who were in a higher grade.
5. I didn't have a high school boyfriend. I think that would've been hard since gay teens at my school used to get hassled.
6. I didn't play on a sports team in high school.
7. No. I knew my school pretty well but sometimes I would get lost on propose because i didn't want to go to class.
8. I was pretty average. lol.
10. Yes. I was judge because of my sexuality.
I knew i skiped number 4.
I knew alot of people in high school. I had alot of female friends but I didn't have alot of male friends. I had a few guys who I hung out with.
That's my experience but your experience my be completely different. I haven't been in high school in years.
High school isn't this super scary place that's gonna like swallow you whole if you're not cool. I look back now and laugh at how scared I was because it's stupid. Everything that you expect to go wrong usually doesn't. Things probably will go wrong if you're terrified. Basically the things in your questions don't even matter. They might seem important now, but they won't later. Sorry I don't have any answers for you except just don't stress and be you.
Hi,
I go to high school in England, which is a bit diiferent to America. High school is from age 11 to 18 here.
1. Yes - I was very nervous. Luckily I was put into the same class as my best friend from my previos school, so I was pleased. I'm not really outgoing so I think it was best I was with someone I knew well.
2. not really hard, just go up in difficultly gradually
3. None
4. Few best friends at first, now (I'm 16) loads!
5. no
6. Still haven't!
7. not really sporty in school
8. my school is pretty big - about 1700 people, but I never got lost as all the new kids stick together!
9.average I'd say
10. Not sure really
Good luck, honestly high schools great fun :)
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1. Really awkward having a teacher walk me from class to class.
2.well since your new every one is going to give you the ';new kid'; freebie.
3. I would have to say Nerd, musician, gamer, skater
4.i have a close nit group, small but really loyal
5.yeah i got along better with older people because i skated with them, and wasent really immature
6.I was 16 when i got my first real girlfriend
7.I played foot ball for 1 year
8. yeah
9.I guess average
10.yeah i think they did but it wasent a bad thing
none of those questions matter
just be yourself
no one else can make you ';cool';
dont try to hard
be outgoing
Is it fun flirting and having a crush but boring once you actually get together?
I sound crazy now but let me explain this.
You know when you have a crush at school and you get all excited just to go to school and see them and flirt with them?
Well, it kinda gives you like those butterflies or whatever, and then let's say you start going out with your crush?
It's like...blah. No more playing hard to get. No more wondering how he feels about you. You know, whatever.
It's like it's just fun flirting and acting cute around them and all that. But once you're in a relationship you wake up the next morning and you're like, CRAP! I have to deal with my boyfriend today. :|
Lol, well that's what happened to me. It's fun just doing that.
Do you guys semi feel the same?Is it fun flirting and having a crush but boring once you actually get together?
It's because you like the feeling of the chase more than the guy himself so when you actually have the guy, it's boring.Is it fun flirting and having a crush but boring once you actually get together?
No it should be fun both ways ofcourse flirting is intriguing and fun but once you get together it should be fun and you guys should also be there for eachother at bad times too. If it gets boring to you maybe that person turn out to be something different from what you expected, or you guys are just not compatible.
I feel your pain girl im still trying to see if i should ask someone to go out with me i have an ex-crush who now likes me because i moved and a new crush who is so fine that i cant even explain but anyway you should just follow wat ur mind tells u then ur heart and see where that takes you because if you lik him then you must want to date him there's no more ';crap i have to deal with my boyfriend'; you wanted him you got him as simple as that!
yes omg, its like you go to sleep feeling so exited that you got to talk to him and always have a big smile on your face, but when youre together its like meh, whatever. Thats happened to me before, it sucks.
Yeah, ur pretty much like not ready for a relationship. Only ppl who aren't ready to commit want to just flirt and test the waters. Its up to you though.
that happens to a lot of people
it just means that you don't like the commitment
nothing's wrong with that...I just don't suggest dating anytime soon lol
Haha. thats how i am right now. well just having a little crush %26amp; looking cute %26amp; stuff.
I know whatchya mean !
That happens to me alot.
I can relate, and I really hate it.
I feel you man.
I love the game. I get drawn in with the mind games and LOVE the challenge of getting them, then you get this 'prize' and you're like :( it's not that great! haha.
I had a problem with a girl who was really into me from the start and i didn't need to try and get him at-all. It's ok though, I told him to back off for a while and it gave me the chance to realize that I actually did like him :)
I don't know what I need, but i'm still young so i'll have fun :) You do the same.
You know when you have a crush at school and you get all excited just to go to school and see them and flirt with them?
Well, it kinda gives you like those butterflies or whatever, and then let's say you start going out with your crush?
It's like...blah. No more playing hard to get. No more wondering how he feels about you. You know, whatever.
It's like it's just fun flirting and acting cute around them and all that. But once you're in a relationship you wake up the next morning and you're like, CRAP! I have to deal with my boyfriend today. :|
Lol, well that's what happened to me. It's fun just doing that.
Do you guys semi feel the same?Is it fun flirting and having a crush but boring once you actually get together?
It's because you like the feeling of the chase more than the guy himself so when you actually have the guy, it's boring.Is it fun flirting and having a crush but boring once you actually get together?
No it should be fun both ways ofcourse flirting is intriguing and fun but once you get together it should be fun and you guys should also be there for eachother at bad times too. If it gets boring to you maybe that person turn out to be something different from what you expected, or you guys are just not compatible.
I feel your pain girl im still trying to see if i should ask someone to go out with me i have an ex-crush who now likes me because i moved and a new crush who is so fine that i cant even explain but anyway you should just follow wat ur mind tells u then ur heart and see where that takes you because if you lik him then you must want to date him there's no more ';crap i have to deal with my boyfriend'; you wanted him you got him as simple as that!
yes omg, its like you go to sleep feeling so exited that you got to talk to him and always have a big smile on your face, but when youre together its like meh, whatever. Thats happened to me before, it sucks.
Yeah, ur pretty much like not ready for a relationship. Only ppl who aren't ready to commit want to just flirt and test the waters. Its up to you though.
that happens to a lot of people
it just means that you don't like the commitment
nothing's wrong with that...I just don't suggest dating anytime soon lol
Haha. thats how i am right now. well just having a little crush %26amp; looking cute %26amp; stuff.
I know whatchya mean !
That happens to me alot.
I can relate, and I really hate it.
I feel you man.
I love the game. I get drawn in with the mind games and LOVE the challenge of getting them, then you get this 'prize' and you're like :( it's not that great! haha.
I had a problem with a girl who was really into me from the start and i didn't need to try and get him at-all. It's ok though, I told him to back off for a while and it gave me the chance to realize that I actually did like him :)
I don't know what I need, but i'm still young so i'll have fun :) You do the same.
Is this girl my girlfriend? and if not, how do I get there?
I've been seeing a girl for a little over a month and I want to (a) sleep with her and (b) make her my girlfriend. Usually I would have part (a) on lock down by now, but this girl is pretty Christian and I think she wants to take things slow, which I'm fine with because I actually like her. In fact I haven't liked a girl like this in a long time.
I basically want to know how to play the middle game (the game right before you become boyfriend and girlfriend) because I haven't had a bona fide girlfriend in a while (though I've seen lots of women).
Necessary background:
PROS: We've seen each other 5 or 6 times and have had fun each time. We talk or text every other day pretty much (maybe every 2.5 days if you averaged it). She's kissy and holds my hand.
CONS: She doesn't invite me out to places now. She was the initial aggressor, but now its me. For instance, tomorrow night and Friday night she's going out to a happy hour and her freinds birthday but hasn't invited me to either. She's also just a really busy person being in college (I'm a law student) so I'll ask her out and it'll take a little while for her to find a mutually convenient time (i.e. i've gotten a lot of ';i'm busy then, but what about...';).
QUESTION IS...How do I play this one from here out? Should I play it hard to get now that I've demonstrated my interest or do I keep on with the blitz and do something real nice like take her to a sports game and a nice dinner? I am great with the 1-4 date range; I am completely lost now that we're beyond that.
Chronology (which you don't need to read unless you are interested):
1 - She went on a date with a mutual friend 6 months ago and it went awful for them, but we really had a vibe.
2 - She recognized me at a bar and asked for my number like 5 weeks ago.
3 - She texted me and said lets hang out the next day.
4 - I took her out to dinner that thursday (kiss on the cheek)
5 - a week later we meet for coffee, talk, enjoy our time. She invites me to dinner at her house after but I'm busy.
6 - 2 days later, we meet out at a bar (make out, a little middle-schoolish though)
7 - 2 days later, I'm by her place we get coffee real fast.
8 - a week later I had her make me dinner at her place and we went out after and had fun till like 230 in the morning (she asks ';So, what are we doing now'; I say ';well, i'm not tired, we could go back to your apt and see what your roomate is up to'; response: ';well, i'm getting tired and I have a lot of work to do tomorrow so i'm gonna grab this cab.';)
9 - Called her on monday asked her out to dinner but she said she was real busy this week. Said maybe lunch on friday but i'm busy then anyways.
10- texted her today and said good luck on some crap she has going on tomorrow.
No talk about plans for this weekend. Oh, and for what its worth, she goes on spring break not this next week, but the week after.Is this girl my girlfriend? and if not, how do I get there?
I wouldn't girlfriend her yet. It's too soon for most. You sound like you're treating her perfectly! Don't play hard to get games! She doesn't sound like the type who'd appreciate that. Personally I hate it. But be careful about taking it too slow...not all Christian girls are saving it lol...although that #8 lost me too. I can't tell if that was a gentleman test or not.Is this girl my girlfriend? and if not, how do I get there?
Slept with her last night. Suck it, Jasmine.
1) You will never make her your girlfriend
2) You will never sleep with her.
If you're old enough to go to a bar, you should have learned by now that women, all women, even the good Christian kind, decide within the first 10 minutes whether or not we will sleep with a guy (although we reserve the right to change our minds). We might push you away to keep you on your toes, but if you meet expectations we will sleep with you.
You've done everything right but nothing is happening. She's not even giving you the in that you have a chance. She will never sleep with you. So by definition she will never be your girlfriend.
Best to stop torturing yourself and move on...spyware removal borrow money
I basically want to know how to play the middle game (the game right before you become boyfriend and girlfriend) because I haven't had a bona fide girlfriend in a while (though I've seen lots of women).
Necessary background:
PROS: We've seen each other 5 or 6 times and have had fun each time. We talk or text every other day pretty much (maybe every 2.5 days if you averaged it). She's kissy and holds my hand.
CONS: She doesn't invite me out to places now. She was the initial aggressor, but now its me. For instance, tomorrow night and Friday night she's going out to a happy hour and her freinds birthday but hasn't invited me to either. She's also just a really busy person being in college (I'm a law student) so I'll ask her out and it'll take a little while for her to find a mutually convenient time (i.e. i've gotten a lot of ';i'm busy then, but what about...';).
QUESTION IS...How do I play this one from here out? Should I play it hard to get now that I've demonstrated my interest or do I keep on with the blitz and do something real nice like take her to a sports game and a nice dinner? I am great with the 1-4 date range; I am completely lost now that we're beyond that.
Chronology (which you don't need to read unless you are interested):
1 - She went on a date with a mutual friend 6 months ago and it went awful for them, but we really had a vibe.
2 - She recognized me at a bar and asked for my number like 5 weeks ago.
3 - She texted me and said lets hang out the next day.
4 - I took her out to dinner that thursday (kiss on the cheek)
5 - a week later we meet for coffee, talk, enjoy our time. She invites me to dinner at her house after but I'm busy.
6 - 2 days later, we meet out at a bar (make out, a little middle-schoolish though)
7 - 2 days later, I'm by her place we get coffee real fast.
8 - a week later I had her make me dinner at her place and we went out after and had fun till like 230 in the morning (she asks ';So, what are we doing now'; I say ';well, i'm not tired, we could go back to your apt and see what your roomate is up to'; response: ';well, i'm getting tired and I have a lot of work to do tomorrow so i'm gonna grab this cab.';)
9 - Called her on monday asked her out to dinner but she said she was real busy this week. Said maybe lunch on friday but i'm busy then anyways.
10- texted her today and said good luck on some crap she has going on tomorrow.
No talk about plans for this weekend. Oh, and for what its worth, she goes on spring break not this next week, but the week after.Is this girl my girlfriend? and if not, how do I get there?
I wouldn't girlfriend her yet. It's too soon for most. You sound like you're treating her perfectly! Don't play hard to get games! She doesn't sound like the type who'd appreciate that. Personally I hate it. But be careful about taking it too slow...not all Christian girls are saving it lol...although that #8 lost me too. I can't tell if that was a gentleman test or not.Is this girl my girlfriend? and if not, how do I get there?
Slept with her last night. Suck it, Jasmine.
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1) You will never make her your girlfriend
2) You will never sleep with her.
If you're old enough to go to a bar, you should have learned by now that women, all women, even the good Christian kind, decide within the first 10 minutes whether or not we will sleep with a guy (although we reserve the right to change our minds). We might push you away to keep you on your toes, but if you meet expectations we will sleep with you.
You've done everything right but nothing is happening. She's not even giving you the in that you have a chance. She will never sleep with you. So by definition she will never be your girlfriend.
Best to stop torturing yourself and move on...
I did something awful and i need your advice?
Hi, i know you guys always hear me saying how great my relationship is with my boyfirend. well, lately, we've been having a hard time. he can be really mean and childish simply because he's moody. and i've found myself loosing character just to give him a taste of his own medicine. but i definitely went too far. last weekend he went away for his birthday. i was really upset because of the situation (which is a long story) and i was tired of being unappreciated. we have mutual friends at a bar but they are more his friends. i went there after work by myself. one of the guys has wanted me and would knock it off infront of my boyfriend. i met him at the bar playing it off as friends. i got drunk...pretty drunk. there was a scene at the bar so we left. i went to his place and yeah...i did it. the ultimate no no. i wasnt too guilty about it for a couple of days until me and my boyfriend decided to start over and things have been great. he heard what happend at the bar and how i went by myself. he doesn't trust his friend and he already thinks something has happend between us from the past because he doesn't trust his friend. now...something really has happend and i feel awful. how could i do that to the one i love? all because of anger and spite. i could have done anything else just to be spiteful but i had to go the full mile. i was drunk but i cant blame it on that since i didnt feel bad right away, like i woke up and felt numb, realizing what i did and just left. i remember thinking , ';i can't believe i went through with that'; and that was it. i felt different and wouldn't make love to my boysfriend. he kept asking why and i would give him some crazy excuse. i feel awful, what should i do? should i tell him? i'm scared he'll leave me. he's a very sensitive guy, but i know he hasn't been an angel. i feel like that shouldn't play a part in my decision because i love this man so much. can you help me?I did something awful and i need your advice?
The bottomline is this. You wronged him. Tell him the complete and honest truth, and let him handle it how he will.
I did something awful and i need your advice?
it would be better if you tell him yourself rather than he hears it from another person and could really get angry for you not telling him...if you dont dare talk with him then write him a letter and have him read it,and tell him how you really feel about him and how sorry you are.. good luck
Honesty hurts, but it will save you in the long run. let him know you were hurt and acted out of character. Let him know you felt abondoned and what you did. Good luck
well you deff. shouldn't have had s e x with his friend.
but what can you do? he does have the right to know...
but if you think that him knowing would ruin your relationship then i wouldn't tell him.
Deny it and tell him the other guy led you on and say you were drunk and explain you needed to explore your sexuality and stuff.
Tell him! He has a right to know the kind of friends he has. If he is smart. he'll look for a new girl friend and thank the guy friend for showing him...
if you two are really trying to start over then you need to tell him. you cant rebuild a relationship on lies.
Tell him, then bring over one of your girlfriends and let them party together alone.
Tell him what happened.
You might as well tell him and not because you want to relieve your guilt but because his so called ';friend'; might beat you to it. I'm sure your bf would rather hear it from you than from him.
Unfortunately what done is done. I would have to agree with you that you boyfriend has acting childish and your action was no different.
You felt slighted by him and he left town on a day that you would have gladly spent with him.
Pain real or imagined is pain and you found a willing subject to lean on.
Now your boyfriend returns acting all nice and sweet, so now you are guilt ridden by your decision.
Take stock in your relationship and see if he is what you want to spend the rest of your life with, constant back and forth, moody, mean and childish.
You made your bed, now you have to lie in it. You need to tell him. If he's wanting to start over fresh, you can't re-start it with the biggest secret of all. What if he finds out from your friend? That would not be good. Do the right thing and tell him. He'll decide wether your relationship is worth the work or not. And from now on, don't sleep with your boyfriend's friends.
Something I've learned in life is that communication is key- especially in a relationship like yours. I also think that not being honest with him is just making your situation worse- now, on top of everything else, you're finding yourself lying to him. Plus, if you feel so horribly about this, nothing else will make you feel better.
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The best thing to do is stop talking to this bar worker and never go back to this bar. You can tell him the truth, which will hurt him more and probably end your relationship as well, or you can keep it to yourself and try to make amends in your relationship for now the best way you know how. So he's no angel? Your not one either. Everyone makes mistakes, sometimes terrible ones, and then we learn from them. There were worse things you could have done, but at the time I bet you were feeling pretty damn good about what you did. Now you have the consequences to deal with, which hopefully will only be that you have learned a good lesson, you'll come close to losing a person you really love, but maybe god, or whatever higher power you believe in will take pity on you. If he does find out from this bar worker, then you must tell him the truth and accept what he does, all the while keeping in mind he too has been out playing.
You seem to have a pretty difficult situation. Would you have the chance that his friend would tell on yall? If not, I say take your time, compose yourself and wait until the right moment to mention it. Tell him it meant nothing and he means everything. Tell him how he was acting and how it made you feel. He will be very upset and may leave, but you will feel a lot better telling him and if he does leave then he is not the man for you. Good luck hun and if you need anyone to talk to im a great listener! Email if you need!
You have to tell him or your never going to be happy with yourself or the relationship, because your thinking of all the what if. Like what if i tell him and he gets mad but he will love me still. What if he leaves. What if this can make our love stronger. If he stays your love is stronge if not then its time to say goodbye. What if it happen to you, you would wnat to know. So tell him
I guess if you get THAT out of control with your drinking, then you probably shouldn't drink. And if you get THAT mad at him that you end up cheating, then there is a problem all in its own.
It doesn't matter how bad you feel, because he is going to feel worse. You should tell him. Let him decide on how he wants to react.
Everything happens for a reason.
I had a Very similar experience just a few months ago... my fiance' and I were going through a rough time and he was acting very distant.. I ended up running into one of his friends at a bar the same night that he just sent me over the edge... I didn't have sex with the guy but we did make out... a few days later my fiance' and I decided to meet up for dinner and talk things over.. we decided to try for a fresh start.. I told him that I ran into his friend and we hung out.. he was furious and asked me if that was all I lied and said yes... A few days later I couldn't keep it in any longer and let out the truth.. we didn't talk for a few days and finally he forgave me but let me know that it wouldn't have hurt him as much if I had just told him the truth when he asked for it...
So my advice is come clean now and apologize if you really mean it.. Its better to get it out now since he already has his suspicions then to keep it in. He will definately be hurt but dishonesty is not the answer to your problem
How would you feel if your man had done what you did and did not confess to you? What would happen if you found out what he did from your friend (meaning, the one he slept with if roles were reversed)? When you got to the bottom line, perhaps you would leave... perhaps had he been honest you would have stayed?
To me, a relationship is more than just sex alone - it is the sharing of your deepest, most personal self that you save for your one-and-only. As stated in a former comment, there must be something more wrong with this relationship if all of these events took place. That doesn't change the fact that you are where you are and you can't undo the past.
Honesty and trust are two key issues that need to be dealt with here - not to mention feelings. If you want to have affairs of the heart or physical contact with others in your relationship then that is up to you and your boyfriend to decide, but to me there can only be one. The right thing to do is to sit down with your boyfriend and let him know what happened. If the relationship is worth saving and you can earn his trust then it will work out. There are some lines that you just can't cross, however. His actions and feelings are going to dictate the end of this stage in your life, but in order to forgive yourself and move on, you need to come clean and be honest. If not, it will always have potential to damage you. The guilt alone is reason enough. Hopefully this is the first time and you've learned a lesson that won't be repeated. Pretend that it was him that cheated and not you - act like you would hope he would to you! Best of luck.
Don't use drunk as an excuse, if you drive a vehicle drunk and someone dies because of it, most states call it manslaughter. You need to own up, take whatever's coming to you, be it look for new BF or whatever but stop making excuses for doing what you wanted to do all along and had to get drunk to have the courage to do it. Yes, you should feel guilty. This is precisely why I remain single and celibate because you are the NORM. Just stop with the ignorant excuses and fess the heck up.
ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU!
THE GUY THAT U DID IT WITH CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HIM..WHERE EVER U KNOW HES GONNA BE AT DONT GO!
AND DONT TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND WHAT HE DOESNT KNOW WONT KILL HIM
He needs to know, what if you caught some std from the friend? you should probably get tested too......condoms dont protect you from everything....if he dumps you, you deserve it sorry.... quit drinking, you can not trust yourself on it.
The bottomline is this. You wronged him. Tell him the complete and honest truth, and let him handle it how he will.
I did something awful and i need your advice?
it would be better if you tell him yourself rather than he hears it from another person and could really get angry for you not telling him...if you dont dare talk with him then write him a letter and have him read it,and tell him how you really feel about him and how sorry you are.. good luck
Honesty hurts, but it will save you in the long run. let him know you were hurt and acted out of character. Let him know you felt abondoned and what you did. Good luck
well you deff. shouldn't have had s e x with his friend.
but what can you do? he does have the right to know...
but if you think that him knowing would ruin your relationship then i wouldn't tell him.
Deny it and tell him the other guy led you on and say you were drunk and explain you needed to explore your sexuality and stuff.
Tell him! He has a right to know the kind of friends he has. If he is smart. he'll look for a new girl friend and thank the guy friend for showing him...
if you two are really trying to start over then you need to tell him. you cant rebuild a relationship on lies.
Tell him, then bring over one of your girlfriends and let them party together alone.
Tell him what happened.
You might as well tell him and not because you want to relieve your guilt but because his so called ';friend'; might beat you to it. I'm sure your bf would rather hear it from you than from him.
Unfortunately what done is done. I would have to agree with you that you boyfriend has acting childish and your action was no different.
You felt slighted by him and he left town on a day that you would have gladly spent with him.
Pain real or imagined is pain and you found a willing subject to lean on.
Now your boyfriend returns acting all nice and sweet, so now you are guilt ridden by your decision.
Take stock in your relationship and see if he is what you want to spend the rest of your life with, constant back and forth, moody, mean and childish.
You made your bed, now you have to lie in it. You need to tell him. If he's wanting to start over fresh, you can't re-start it with the biggest secret of all. What if he finds out from your friend? That would not be good. Do the right thing and tell him. He'll decide wether your relationship is worth the work or not. And from now on, don't sleep with your boyfriend's friends.
Something I've learned in life is that communication is key- especially in a relationship like yours. I also think that not being honest with him is just making your situation worse- now, on top of everything else, you're finding yourself lying to him. Plus, if you feel so horribly about this, nothing else will make you feel better.
hey ive just submitted a question an had dogs abuse so heregoes!! if i was you iwould tell him because if it me id feel guity paranoid you knw? and people are soooo quick to drop people in it and add a few extras!! obv itup to you doll butidtell him howit was/is if anything it will be easier to just let him do whathe has to do god yes it hurt and he may run but you did right thing in being honest i wouldnt want to find out 3rdhand youknow let meknw how yougo email me ifyou wantxx
The best thing to do is stop talking to this bar worker and never go back to this bar. You can tell him the truth, which will hurt him more and probably end your relationship as well, or you can keep it to yourself and try to make amends in your relationship for now the best way you know how. So he's no angel? Your not one either. Everyone makes mistakes, sometimes terrible ones, and then we learn from them. There were worse things you could have done, but at the time I bet you were feeling pretty damn good about what you did. Now you have the consequences to deal with, which hopefully will only be that you have learned a good lesson, you'll come close to losing a person you really love, but maybe god, or whatever higher power you believe in will take pity on you. If he does find out from this bar worker, then you must tell him the truth and accept what he does, all the while keeping in mind he too has been out playing.
You seem to have a pretty difficult situation. Would you have the chance that his friend would tell on yall? If not, I say take your time, compose yourself and wait until the right moment to mention it. Tell him it meant nothing and he means everything. Tell him how he was acting and how it made you feel. He will be very upset and may leave, but you will feel a lot better telling him and if he does leave then he is not the man for you. Good luck hun and if you need anyone to talk to im a great listener! Email if you need!
You have to tell him or your never going to be happy with yourself or the relationship, because your thinking of all the what if. Like what if i tell him and he gets mad but he will love me still. What if he leaves. What if this can make our love stronger. If he stays your love is stronge if not then its time to say goodbye. What if it happen to you, you would wnat to know. So tell him
I guess if you get THAT out of control with your drinking, then you probably shouldn't drink. And if you get THAT mad at him that you end up cheating, then there is a problem all in its own.
It doesn't matter how bad you feel, because he is going to feel worse. You should tell him. Let him decide on how he wants to react.
Everything happens for a reason.
I had a Very similar experience just a few months ago... my fiance' and I were going through a rough time and he was acting very distant.. I ended up running into one of his friends at a bar the same night that he just sent me over the edge... I didn't have sex with the guy but we did make out... a few days later my fiance' and I decided to meet up for dinner and talk things over.. we decided to try for a fresh start.. I told him that I ran into his friend and we hung out.. he was furious and asked me if that was all I lied and said yes... A few days later I couldn't keep it in any longer and let out the truth.. we didn't talk for a few days and finally he forgave me but let me know that it wouldn't have hurt him as much if I had just told him the truth when he asked for it...
So my advice is come clean now and apologize if you really mean it.. Its better to get it out now since he already has his suspicions then to keep it in. He will definately be hurt but dishonesty is not the answer to your problem
How would you feel if your man had done what you did and did not confess to you? What would happen if you found out what he did from your friend (meaning, the one he slept with if roles were reversed)? When you got to the bottom line, perhaps you would leave... perhaps had he been honest you would have stayed?
To me, a relationship is more than just sex alone - it is the sharing of your deepest, most personal self that you save for your one-and-only. As stated in a former comment, there must be something more wrong with this relationship if all of these events took place. That doesn't change the fact that you are where you are and you can't undo the past.
Honesty and trust are two key issues that need to be dealt with here - not to mention feelings. If you want to have affairs of the heart or physical contact with others in your relationship then that is up to you and your boyfriend to decide, but to me there can only be one. The right thing to do is to sit down with your boyfriend and let him know what happened. If the relationship is worth saving and you can earn his trust then it will work out. There are some lines that you just can't cross, however. His actions and feelings are going to dictate the end of this stage in your life, but in order to forgive yourself and move on, you need to come clean and be honest. If not, it will always have potential to damage you. The guilt alone is reason enough. Hopefully this is the first time and you've learned a lesson that won't be repeated. Pretend that it was him that cheated and not you - act like you would hope he would to you! Best of luck.
Don't use drunk as an excuse, if you drive a vehicle drunk and someone dies because of it, most states call it manslaughter. You need to own up, take whatever's coming to you, be it look for new BF or whatever but stop making excuses for doing what you wanted to do all along and had to get drunk to have the courage to do it. Yes, you should feel guilty. This is precisely why I remain single and celibate because you are the NORM. Just stop with the ignorant excuses and fess the heck up.
ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU!
THE GUY THAT U DID IT WITH CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HIM..WHERE EVER U KNOW HES GONNA BE AT DONT GO!
AND DONT TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND WHAT HE DOESNT KNOW WONT KILL HIM
He needs to know, what if you caught some std from the friend? you should probably get tested too......condoms dont protect you from everything....if he dumps you, you deserve it sorry.... quit drinking, you can not trust yourself on it.
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