I feel my boyfriend was initially with me for the 'thrill of the chase' how can I tell for sure its not a game

I feel my boyfriend was initially with me for the 'thrill of the chase' how can I tell for sure its not a game


He always asked me out in the past (a couple years ago) %26amp; I always said no because I wasn't ready for a relationship..but then a couple months ago he asked %26amp; I was ready %26amp; I liked him a lot and so I said yes..now after we have been going out it seems like he is less interested or something..when he's with me he always seems like he likes me a lot, but when he isn't with me he never bothers to call. he claims he is working all the time, so because of that we can never hang out. We already got in a couple fights because he wouldn't call me when he said we were going to hang out..but he would apologize for being a jerk but I still feel like he is just taking this too casually %26amp; I was expecting more from him.. I haven't seen him since christmas eve..and I just don't know how I can really tell if he is playing me or not. What should I look for? I have a hard time trusting people %26amp; I just don't want to get hurt if I can help it. Please give me your opinions thanks.I feel my boyfriend was initially with me for the 'thrill of the chase' how can I tell for sure its not a game
If you don't want to be hurt, disappear. It is going to happen throughout all our lives. To all of us, its called life. Maybe you had been waiting too long before you accepted a date, all that expectation ! I'm just speculating, now reality. Maybe he was just pursuing another feather in his cap. If your just wondering give it a little time. However if its some strange strong negative vibe, its ';get out clause'; time. Either ways there are no loosers, nothing ventured nothing gained.I feel my boyfriend was initially with me for the 'thrill of the chase' how can I tell for sure its not a game
I don't mind that your initial information is lengthy. It helps to understand what you're asking. The key to getting responses seems to be posting on the right day of the week, time, and topic board. Being on a lot of peoples' contact lists helps too.





As for your question, you should first evaluate what this guy really means to you, what he brings into your life, and how the world-your very existence- is better because he's in your life. Then, if he passes that test you must do things that endear you to him. Find out where he works and let him know you are going to bring him lunch once a week, just to spend that extra time with him. When you two do see each other, hold him near a lot. Doesn't have to be sexual. Just to let him know there is a connection that is only his. Give him a pet name. Something only you two know about. Accept his pet name for you. Wipe his mouth once or twice during meals together as needed. Call him, even if he doesn't call you - but, not incessantly. (Afterall, in some European cultures, men don't even THINK of marriage or long term commitments unless they know they can support their prospective woman. They make sure there is a nest egg, and a stable job or career first, before they even commit. Perhaps he works so much to prepare himself for you. If so, support that in him.)


Yes, there is a chance that he is seeing someone else. But, isn't there also a chance for you to see someone else? Don't put all your emotions into a guy until you are married or have a sound commitment. Single means single, even if the woman falls head over heels. So why fall?


Find ways to get more into his life without seeming obsessed. Meet his family. Does he have a sister? Meet his friends. Know where they hang. Do you know his address? Where he works? His basic work schedule? If you don't know things like this about him within six months - if he is a ';mystery man'; - chances are he's a player (or a wanna be).


On the for-real side, you should know those things about a man BEFORE any hanky panky to avoid being played.





Good luck.
Dump him.





Obviously you're not happy with this relationship, so why would you stay in it?
I'd just wait a little longer, and if he doesn't call in a few days, then just say this isn't working


I know how you feel. It's hard to be put aside, but it might just be a busy time of year for him if he is realy working.


Hang in there hun, things will work out.
i would really like to see the responses you get.


this sounds like what happened to me.


i was the ';new girl';, the ';white girl'; etc.


after the guy started dating me, he saw me at first, but after a month, he stopped coming over and on the phone would say stuff like, ';come over tomorrow=]'; and i would call to come over and he would get mad as if i was some how ';intruding'; on him and ';how dare i'; and...


well...he never wanted to go out.


he always claimed to be ';busy'; although i found him many times just hanging around with his friends and stuff.


on messenger he would take FIVE MINUTES to respond to me when i sent him a message like, ';hi.';


and then five minutes later, ';hi.';


two minutes later, ';how r u?';


right away(me): good and u? =D';


him(after i rang him for five or six minutes): good.


me: oh, that's cool.


...


-_-!!!


and he was a quick typer!!!


anyways, he did a bunch of crap like that.


i eventually found he had written love poems to a girl on her fotolog page-_-


they were ';inspiration'; because she was ';feeling down';...


';sure';


';right';


';whatever you say';


anyways, he eventually asked out his ex and then dumped me the same day(after he had asked her out...)


then he left.


and stopped talking to me.


asshole...


but before we had gotten together, i called him ugly once and he got really into me...


then we became best friends and we hung out a bunch and even when he had a girlfriend he was flirting with me(i didn't even know he had a girlfriend at the time...that's how bad it was!!!!)


anyways, he was an asshole, so if your guy is like that then he is prob. the same way.


hope this helps and that you find a better guy who actually treats you right and doesn't blow you off all the time.


GOOD LUCK!!!


^^
your additional info is too long. no one will ever read it. you will only know whether he was just in it for the chase if he is still with you in about 25 years. sorry. simple as that !
If U haven't seen him since Xmas Eve that means he's gone forever. Would U not see your loved ones during Xmas? Ask yourself this Q. U will know your answer.