What is your view on this statement below which my daughter was handed by her Lecturer @ college today?

It is an A4 size Powerpoint with colour printed cartoon images placed randomly and large text:





Verbatim text reads:





Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now.





They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were.





So Before You Save


The Rain Forest From


The Parasite's Of Your


Parent's Generation,


Try Delousing The Closet,


In Your Own Room.





This is a Chef Lecturer (1 of 3) at a respected college in the New Forest, UK. My daughter works very hard and produces a high standard of work. She was the 2nd to finish her Yr I folders and has passed all modules. She also works 4 nights per week at Hilton Hotel so is doing an 18 hr day some days - she is only 17. She is very focused and has not got a boyfriend like many others as this has left them to neglect their coursework etc and it showed in their grades. She has always felt he has an issue with her from her first week - over a year ago now. The other Chef Lecturer says she is the best student he has taught in 8yrs and she will go far - asking us if we could clone her she was such a joy to teach and always respectful.





This Chef has been on her case for last 2 weeks humiliating her in front of the whole kitchen and has almost reduced her to tears - which is just not her at all. He seems to play ';games'; by asking her for some volumes when making soup out aloud and then when she takes 2 seconds to answer he has a go at her and says things like - ';do you have a problem with maths Chef, then answer me'; If she gives an answer he re asks the same question but in a different way and she feels intimidated by him. He will point to something ask her something about the item, when she says what it is - he points to another box and says ';no chef that one'; She can hear all the others sniggering and it's making it unbearable for her.





I feel this is totally unacceptable - or perhaps maybe I'm just an old fashioned Mum who talks to her daughter and is genuinely interested in her news, views, friends and achievements.





I want to request a meeting to ask why he feels this is appropriate


behaviour - this of course would be before I put in an official complaint about him ........ what do you think ? What do you read into this as I'm godsmacked quite honestly and feel hurt for her.





I know what I think of this text ';Rule'; but WHY would he pass this to anyone unless it was to give a clear derogatory message?What is your view on this statement below which my daughter was handed by her Lecturer @ college today?
When you watch television, you can see chefs screaming abuse at their juniors. Not a nice group of people.





And it is worth remembering that they are at the rough end of manual labourers.





You daughter has the right to ask the head of the department of cheffing what that handout is supposed to mean.





If she doesn't get an answer, she should ask the principal.





I think the words above may have something to do with looking for ones own faults, before one looks for the fault in others.





I don't think your daughter would want the reputation of having an interfering mother. Let her make her complaints herself.What is your view on this statement below which my daughter was handed by her Lecturer @ college today?
if it was my daughter i would want to smack him in the mouth but then you would cut your nose to spite your face go ahead im sick of this country not complaining enough COMPLAIN AND CLAIM by the way you`ve got a good girl there she WILL go far
You are being a helicopter parent. You need to let her work through this. You aren't doing her any favors - she's going to have a lot of jerk bosses and customers (especially in the Rest. business, which is brutal), so she needs to learn how (on her own) to deal with this type of personality.


I'm not defending the bully - just saying it's not your fight.
I'd simply send a copy of the letter to the head of the school with a reply asking the head if this guy is actually paid to talk rubbish . Say if he has no factual words relevant to your daughters education you would very much appreciate it if he did not talk to her at all .
If that's the kind of field she's in, she's going to just have to learn to deal with these things on her own. . . anything you do other than be there to listen when she needs a friendly ear to tell how much her day sucked is probably not going to help her on that front. I'm sure this will be hard, but . . . as long as she sounds like she's still holding herself together, just keep reminding her that you and she both know she can do it and sending her out again. Not all of her teachers have been this mean to her, so she must not be incompetent even if the one seems to be treating her as though she is.





Education isn't fair, but the real world is usually worse. He may just be trying to toughen her up before she gets out there and it's her career rather than just a grade in a course. Some instructors just take this approach, and it's actually not always a bad thing for you in the long run. It's like 3rd grade -- people who make themselves be fun to get picked on are the ones who'll get picked on more and more.





I've been studying in a traditionally-male field for years, and I'd have to say that I'd be humiliated if my mom ever said something in such a situation. Sometimes, all you can really do as the student without having all your classmates laughing at you forever is either just ignore that it bothered you and go on or quickly (!) come up with a response that's semi-polite but gets across that you don't just sit back and take such abuse lightly. (That latter is usually an acquired skill, so I'd advise she just stick with the former for now if she's still the nice, respectiful girl.) I've had to deal with some rude older professors along the way. . . including one who pointed out that he thought there were getting to be too many girls in the field the first day of class. . . but you just have to learn to take your frustration with these people and turn it into motivation to do well so they look like a narrow-minded idiot when they have to say you did well at the end or deal with ';capricious grading'; allegations.
I think you should go ahead with the meeting and ask his reasons for his behaviour. Of which im sure there will be a lot of umming and dodging the question.





I think that your daughter has put far too much effort to be treated so badly and a man who treats his students like that, shouldn't be in such a high position.





Hope this helps





Jamie
He is in a senior position yet feels threatened by her. Don't ask me why. You and your daughter need to speak to the head to make sense of this and to make life comfortable for your daughter. Regards the stupid childlike printed statement he has no right to 'invite' himself into the bedroom of your daughter and be derogatory about her and her family (her parents).


In my opinion he needs watching. Best to get something done about his interference.





However when I read the printed stuff I found that amusing but its not funny when knowing the wider picture.