How do you get your boyfriends to ';play nice'; with your parents? Why is it so hard to try to';just get along';

I'm an adult woman, and yet, to this very day... my boyfriend and my parents don't get along!! They all seem to hate each other! I always get stuck in the middle trying to decide who's side I should take.





What do I need to do... if anything... to make sure everyone is getting along?? Should I even care? Should I get involved? Should I stand back? How can I stay out of the middle??How do you get your boyfriends to ';play nice'; with your parents? Why is it so hard to try to';just get along';
I think you should talk to your parents and your boyfriend and remind them they both love YOU and out of respect for you, they need to act civil towards each other. Them fighting hurts you and only you.





As far as taking sides, make your own opinion about what's going on and stick to it. Maybe they'll start to see things your way.





I know it can be very hard getting along with boy/girlfriend's parents, especially if one or both is convinced they are always right to the end of the earth. My boyfriend had to finally put his foot down and demand they be civil towards me. But at the same time, I also had to prove myself to them by working hard and showing I treated their son right.





Don't take sides. Be your own leader and let them follow.How do you get your boyfriends to ';play nice'; with your parents? Why is it so hard to try to';just get along';
Your parents are yours for life. Boyfriends come and go. They are not all meant to be husbands.





Be more selective about the boyfriends.
I've observed that you generally can't get rude people to do anything they don't want to. If having your boyfriend and your parents get along is so important to you, dump him and get a nicer boyfriend.
me and my gilfriend have been together for 2yrs and well her parents can't stand me and she trys to make use get along for her i do be respectful to her parents and for her they are respectful to me it is hard her parents see it as i am takeing their baby girl away from them but like she told them if you don't be nice to him then you will lose me because i love him ever sence then me and her parents are getting along better and we are about to get married and we are happy.
Sometimes they just wont get along. I am sorry. Try to take them somewhere they both really like. Okay. Try that. If that doesn't work I have no Idea.
IF he really loves you he will RESPECT your family by swallowing his tongue and growing up!


I hate my husbands parents but LOVE my husband enough not to fight or down talk them!
you must speak all of them
buy some boxing gloves and send them on their way they will work it out eventualy why dont ur parents like him?
Which is it? Do you want to do something or stay out of it? Have you tried talking to them? Do they have a specific reason that they just can't get over? Is there something one would like the other to stop doing? If they can't get along at all, even if that means just shutting up and acting like they like each other for the duration of a family function, then you have to choose which you want to have around: him or your family.