Now, im working right now, and i know that im not going to be the first Single mother in this earth, and i know that even if my baby ever needs anything, i work so hard to get what ever was needed, maybe he might only have one fire truck to play with or she has a barbi and no barbie house, but my love would be uncondicional. I know i can make it on my own and with my moms support.
However i just wish for him to ouch his hearth, and see how my hearth jumps in happiness, because there is happiness growing insede of me. Yall might not see what a joy has this baby brought to my life. Its an unexplained emotion.
But i just want to know how can i make him, and let him see what a wonderful child is coming ahead of us, it might be hard at first but with love and care everything should be better, and get better.
can anyone give me some advice of something that migh thelp.
thank you.What do you do when your boyfriend doesn't accept your unborn child?
You can not make someone feel something they do not feel. The best advice I can give you is kick him to the curb. As far as I am concerned any person who doesn't see what a blessing they are being given doesn't deserve to be given that blessing and any child who has a parent who doesn't want them deserves better than to have to have that person as a parent. Men are sometimes different and it isn't real for them until there is a baby. Maybe he will be like this and when the baby comes he will change BUT I would not hold my breath waiting for that to happen. Just move on, and be aware that if he does come around there is nothing to promise he won't change his mind again and leave again. Right now the baby really isn't getting hurt by the abandonment BUT if he chooses to do it once the baby is here, at some point it will be old enough to be hurt by his actions. In addition, he needs to be made aware that while you would not keep him from his child, you will not be able to undo the hurt he causes by the actions he chooses to take between now and then so if he is thinking that he can just take his time, live his life then come around when he thinks he wants to be a family with you he needs to think again b/c while he may be the bio dad that does not make you the person who sits around and waits for him to come back. You have your own life to live. This happened to my sister and she met her current husband of 5 yrs when she was 7 months pregnant with her daughter. The daughter bio dad freaked out about and left, then tried to come back at 1 yr birthday to act like daddy, but the new daddy was daddy as far as the baby was concerned and bio daddy was nothing more than a nice guy who visited once in a while. SO he needs to know your world goes on with or without him.What do you do when your boyfriend doesn't accept your unborn child?
I got pregnant at 19 and was really worried my (then) fiance would leave us alone. But he was a trooper. I wasn't positive that he was all there for me until our first ultrasound. When he saw that heart beat, I knew that our baby would have him wrapped, I will never forget the smile on his face.
Give him some time. Try to get him to go to an ultrasound so he can see the miracle he has helped to create.
If he still cant come around after that, get him for child support and hope that when there is actually a living breathing person that is a part of him, he will come around and want to be a part of your lives.(Of course if that's the case, you will have to make him work for it!;D)
Your becoming pregnant has thrown a very large spanner into the Works.
U have effectively caused the BF to think about a REAL change of Direction in his Life..AND, one that he was NOT expecting..Obviously U may have got the blame for this pregnancy..whatever happened to the contraceptive.??
NOW, above, I have been mentioning %26gt;%26gt; ';U'; did this, did that..';U';
BUT, the BF must also realise that it took ';Two to Tango';
..
I like your attitude..and your thinking ahead..obviously U have already put some thought into Life with a Baby, without the BF. ??..I bet U have.
Make him?? U state.. U cant.
He needs to think about this dilemma..
';Dilemma's'; such as this type..can ';make or break'; a relationship..no matter how long the relationship may have been in time..
U also do NOT mention your ages.
IF he sticks to his guns..on the Abortion..DONT push your argument too strongly, as this may cause
more fricton and U dont need any stress ';at this point in time in a pregnancy';
However, whilst U can receive differing opinions on your question in Q%26amp;A, ultimately the end result
(the final outcome%26gt;%26gt; decision) is yours alone.
I wish U well and wise ability.
You did the right thing keeping the baby not nothing such a thing a aborting but if he still mentions you about aborting forget him! You will be happy with your baby.
You are still at the beginning of the pregnancy and he still in the freak out stage. He will calm down and accept this and he will likely want to be involved. You just need to give him time. And if he doesn't get on board at some point, then you don't need someone like that in your life.
he's just scared right now. give him a little time. Maybe once he holds his baby in his arms for the first time he'll feel different. I dont know how any man could not feel different after the first time they see their baby! As for the money situation, if he no longer wants to be with you cause of the baby, go to court and he'll have to pay child support. Best of luck!!
Sorry but you cannt make him want the baby you can only hope he changes his mind but you do what you want to and if he dont like it dont worry its your life and your body and at this point it seems to be only your child im sorry for that i know its hard good luck to you and your baby
Give him time, he might come around. And if he doesn't then get a court ordered DNA test and make him pay child support! Good luck!
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