Why Is My Ex Playing Mind Games?

My ex girlfriend started dating in November of 08. We fell for each other right away. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked, bought her dinner, bought her flowers, help her financially if she needed, and did all of the little things that mattered. We dated for almost six months. I was deeply in love, and she told me she was too. She has a bad past when it comes to guys, and because of that she was VERY insecure. I always assured her and swore I would never cheat or leave her. I planned on giving her a promise ring on our six month anniversary just to prove to her that I would stay true and commited until we were ready to be engaged. About 5 months into our relationship she ended meeting a new guy from her work and ended up cheating with him and left me for him. I was devastated. She said she was in love with him, too. Sorry, we all know that you can't TRULY love two people in the same way. She said she still wanted me in her life and I told her I couldn't do it. Their ';relationship'; didn't last long at all. I'm assuming because she felt guilty. We didn't talk for months. A few months ago I deleted her off of my facebook to begin taking her out of my life and moving on. About a week ago she messaged me and asked why I deleted her. I didn't respond because I thought, ';Why should I?'; She sent me another message a few days later upset over the fact that I didn't respond. She told me that she was sorry for hurting me. She told me that her new boyfriend at the time was doing the same thing to her. She said she still wanted to be friends. So I gave in. I told her how I felt about what she did, and I told her I would think about it. She said it was okay and told me she worried about me a lot and thought it would be nice if we went out for lunch. I thought about it for almost a week and messaged her back and said that I would give it a shot. She told me that she just wanted to be friends and didn't want a relationship because of what she went through with her ex. I'm assuming she broke up with him. I told her that it was okay, and I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship with anyone either. I told her to call me if she needed to talk, because she told me she was hurt. I didn't get a message back. I sent her a text message tonight and told her that I would be here if she needed to talk and she never replied. Why is she doing this? Is she just playing mind games, or is she starting to play the hard to get game? I really thought I had women figured out.. I guess I was wrong. It's been almost 10 months since our break up. I still do love her..what is she trying to say?Why Is My Ex Playing Mind Games?
Because she is using you. She probably originally started talking to you again because she was having problems with the person she is with. She is leading you on to keep you around because:


a) she is insecure and afraid of being alone


and b) she knows that you will do anything for her.





Don't waste your time. She is not hinting that she WANTS you back, only that she wants to know she can GET you back if she has no one else or needs help. Deleting her from your Facebook showed her that you were moving on, so she did just enough to make sure she was still on your mind.





You sound sweet, if a little naive. Find yourself someone who can see THAT in you, rather than seeing you as meal ticket, so to speak.





Good luck.Why Is My Ex Playing Mind Games?
bottom line girls are crazy. jus dont trust em ever.
I believe she is in fact, playing games with your head. I had the same situation, with a few minor differences obviously.. She would do things like say she would call me that night, and never did.. Only she did that all the time.. When I called her since she didn't call me she wouldn't answer.. It was so hard for me because I was in love with her more than I ever have in my life.. I still am in love with her in a way.. Nothing like it used to be but I will always love her. Trust me man, she is messing with your mind.. My advice is to cut your losses and get out of it as soon as you can bare it.. I know how much it sucks, and I truly feel bad for what you have to go through..
If you still love her you shouldnt be trying to play the friend game , look your already hurt that she didnt didnt message you back ect. I think you should forget her or it will just lead to more hurt.
Seems like she's confused man...I'm having the same problems with my ex girlfriend as well sometimes when she feels alone and has her feelings for me again she'll be nice and loving...but on other days it's like whatever and she doens't care too much about conversation...we pretty much text everyday. We broke up in thanksgiving and I've been trying to make her understand that i'll be there for her in anything...until she finds another man then that'll be his job to take care of her. You did all you could for her as I did for my girlfriend I had bought her a promise ring...170 dollars for a kid who worked his summer at pizza hut. I put alot of effort into our relationship and she ****** me over. It seems like when woman have a guy at their feet they want to continue testing him just to see how much he really will do for her. I know how you feel that you want to rush back into seeing her just as a friend or maybe intamacy i want the same thing with my ex but she often blows me off to something else. My ex wont tell me every time whats on her mind even thought i persist in her telling me so i can try to help out. If she isn't messaging you back the only thing to do is stop....don't text anymore, don't call you leave everything to her...you don't try to act interested in setting up a date you just agree with her to meet and just say yes to talking to her but do not be all interested in the fact nor try to seem like your trying to move your schedule around to her...let her do the work. Because she's feeling like **** you have to make yourself look better and make life seem great for you. Make her remember that guy who would do so much for her and she'll realize how bad she ****** up. For us guys man it's hard to know exactly what woman want...it's like war of sexes and even though in our hearts we just want to make up and say lets be together again and forget everything, lets not let stupid things keep us from running back to each other....instead of that we have to submit ourselves to these games till one of us gives in. You let her do this to you man and it's gonna wreck your life and your mind. I'm suffereing through this with my ex right now....I'm putting myself through this because I find no one else worth the pain as much as it causes me to be played by my ex....that's how much i love her...am i closer to being with her.....no. But if you want a shot at anything you can't give in to her making you wonder....you gotta forget and move on but be there for her without being there completely for her....if that makes sense. don't let her play you and don't play her. Just agree to meet, speak, or whatever friends can do for each other....you gotta maintain your cool.....it's easier said than done because you just probably want to hold her again in your arms....but this is the bullshit we need to go through to get the ones we love back.....who made up these rules idk but it's just bullshit....keep strong and i hope everything goes good for you....maybe she deserves a guy like you....maybe she doesn't.
Well,


Its not really nice to jus put ALL girls in the looney catagory. NOT ALL girls are crazy!


there are a few sane ones out there! and you CAN trust some of them.





with that said:


I think shes just confused with herself. some girls are stupid and think they love every guy they see.


Stupid, i know. but i think thats how shes feeling. jus try to get her out of your mind and try to attempt to move on. it might be hard, but its the best you can do right now since shes having WEIRD feelings.


she might not consciencely know shes playing headgames.