Do I just ask him where its going?

I'm 23 and have been single for 4 months now. I've been getting on quite well with a guy who used to work with me, we kept in touch when he was made redundant but I'm not sure where things will go. He has been single for 4-5 months too, he had a bad time with his ex, so I'm not sure whether he's just being extra cautious or whether he's just being polite. Colleagues have commented that they think he likes me but doesnt quite know what to do about it, and another colleague always refers to him as ';your boyfriend'; whenever he mentions him.





I asked him if he wanted to meet for lunch last week when he was in the office for his appeal meeting and he text me the following day to confirm a time, then put x on the end of his message, which he's never done before, but he has hardly replied to my messages since then! I'm just confused by him because he added me on Facebook and was asking colleagues about me before I told anyone I liked him, and now he seems to be playing games with me. Should I just ask him outright how he feels, I dont want to scare him off but I can't keep trying to second guess how he feels.





What do you suggest? This is all new to me, I got with my ex when I was 17 and it was all so easy, no games no playing hard to get, no risk of getting things wrong. Part of me wants to just say ';oh for heavens sake shall we get together or what?!'; HELP! ThanksDo I just ask him where its going?
I think you should go after what you want...and in this case, what you want is an answer as to what your relationship actually is (if anything at all).





Don't do it in a confrontational way that will scare him, but simply say ';hey, I had a great time at lunch last week and was wondering if you would maybe want to go out for a dinner date on Saturday';. If he says yeah, then he's clearly interested. If he panics and gets nervous, then you can follow it up with ';...I meant as friends'; to take the pressure off.





Here's one more way of looking at it: If other people get the sense that he likes you and thinks you two would make a great couple, and said that he ';doesn't quite know what to do about it';, chances are he likes you a lot. And he's probably just really nervous, and maybe a little shy.





I don't think he's trying to do you wrong, I think he's been hurt before and is probably cautious, shy, and nervous all at the same time.





Cut the guy a little slack, take the matter in your own hands, and find out if it's headed in the romantic direction or not. If it is, realize you'll probably have to take it very slowly, but that's usually a good thing.Do I just ask him where its going?
Relax and just enjoy his company when you have it. Observe the guy and learn him. If you ask where it going, he's gonna hear, ';Why haven't you proposed yet, you asshole!?!?!?';