My boyfriend and I don't have sex anymore...?

So we've only been together for 7 months, but our sex life is pretty much obsolete now. I'm 23 and he'll be 22 in december. We dated for 3 months exactly before having sex, and for a couple months we were having it almost whenever we saw each other. He says he loves me but he didn't get me a birthday present and didn't do anything special on my birthday, we went out for drinks with a few friends and that's it. I told him it hurt and we talked about it and he said he was a horrible boyfriend and he didn't know how to make it up..and he never did. That was in October. Xmas is coming up and he already told me he wasn't getting me a xmas present because he doesn't believe in the religious part of it..which is were it derives from. (I don't believe in the religious part either, but I still like to show people that I love them with thoughtful gifts and such). Back to the sex: The last 3 or 4 times we've had sex, I don't get off. He goes for what seems like about 5 or 10 minutes and then ';accidentally'; ends up coming. The last time I slept at his place, I was naked in his bed (except panties..which were very hot by the way), and he noticed this, then and smiled and went downstairs to play a video games because he wasn't tired (I had class the next day). I sent him a text saying ';I find it hard to believe that you have a naked girl in your bed and you don't even want to touch her or anything.'; He came back up and we talked about it and he said thathe doesn't just want to have sex with me and then end up going back downstairs after because he thinks that would be rude. And also that he didn't really feel like ';taking over china'; to give me an orgasm. So to sum up: He obviously doesn't know foreplay exists, even tho I've told him that it's a key element, (which he replied ';so I've heard';), and we never have sex, and when we do he doesn't last long enough for me to go, but i can't just GO in 10minutes, unless i've been previously turned on or something. Our sex life sucks. What does this all mean??My boyfriend and I don't have sex anymore...?
I know this may sound a little crazy but buy a vibrator. See if you can incorporate it into sex play. Let him get familiar with how it works on you, your sensitive areas and the concept of warming you up for sex. My wife did this with me. She wanted me to slow down, not jump on her and start pumping away. So I started teasing her with it before intercourse.





He may like it, want to engage in more foreplay and learn how to please you better. Or he may resent it and be out of your life for good. If it's the latter, well, you still have the vibrator and there are plenty more fish in the sea.My boyfriend and I don't have sex anymore...?
Dump him and find someone better its obvious that if he doesn't want to please you he doesn't give a damn
He sounds selfish. Sex isn't the main part of a relationship, but it is nice to have good sex for a healthy relationship ;] If he doesn't care about your needs and acts like sex is a chore, you should look elsewhere.
I don't buy presents for people for birthdays or Christmas either. In general I don't really celebrate holidays but even if I celebrate I refuse to turn it into a matter of getting people gifts.





But yeah your boyfriend doesn't seem to be very into you. Personally I like foreplay and if I have a naked girl in my bed unless she is really tired I intend on doing something about it. Your boyfriend doesn't seem to care. You can try to talk about it but it seems like you have already done that. Maybe you guys just don't work together.
holy hell, if i had a naked girl in my bed, going downstairs and playing video games is about the last thing i would do. this guy doesn't seem to care for you, or he is frustrated that he can't get you off and has given up at it. it may even be frustration with himself, like he doesn't want to disappoint you again, so he just doesn't want to have sex at all, but obviously that isn't working. i'd say you either need to work it out, or move on.
he is either not all into you anymore or he has another partner because at that age he should be wanting it ATLEAST twice a day. I am 25 now and I still need it atleast twice a day, and my gf is not very pretty but I am still attracted to her





Let him know your needs and if it still doesn't change either dump him and look elsewhere


OR


if you don't want to leave him, buy a dildo