My Boyfriend and Our relationship....?

We've been dating on and off for a little over 3yrs. We're both 24, we work and we go to college. We're back together as of recently, and so far so good, yet I see some of the same things that bothered me before..creeping up again. We both have a tendency to take each other for granted, and disrespect the other. I find that he does it more to me, but that's my perspective. When I see him often, or talk to him more then once a day, he seems bummed about it, almost agitated to be talking to me. When I'm with him and we've already seen eachother that week, he seems distant and also has impatience with me, and I walk on eggshells with him, and have to be able to ';hold my own'; whenever he's rude to me...which can be quite often. It really sucks...I feel unwanted unless I'm playing hard to get with him. And I always have to be conscience of how often we talk or see eachother because it seems like he wants his space more then he wants me around, unless he hasn't heard from all day or seen me in a few days....THEN he wants me.





Also, we don't sleep together anymore. He says he doesn't need it, and I agree. But also...I feel like we're drifting apart without the closeness of sex. I don't know what to do with him anymore... I stress about what's wrong in our relationship. He says he loves me, and I love him, yet we can't seem to stand eachother after a few days of seeing each other constantly. It's like we both need space.





I try to have my own life without him. Sometimes I feel like we don't enjoy the same things though. How am I supposed to build a future with this man if we can't get through these patches that we have like I've described?





I'm going to describe things I like:


I like the gym, hiking, physical activities especially outside


I like waking up early


making goals and talking about them and working on them together. I like family. I like comedy movies, to laugh, and being close with people. I don't like flakes.





My man is: is a night person. hates physical activities and will complain to no end when having to do them. he is okay with going to bars alone, drinking alone, and he drinks every day. he does not find humor in movies, he likes action instead. he likes to be in control of most things. and he is not close with his family.








HELP! What should I do? What are your thoughts?My Boyfriend and Our relationship....?
I'm sorry to say this but you've grown apart. He's no longer that into you and it's time you recognized this. By what you've written here, you've already recognized it, you're just looking for confirmation. There are lots of guys out there who will love you and will want to be with you. The not being close with his family could just mean they've had a lot of things in the past they have yet to reconcile. But the other behavior towards you is the true indicator here. Good luck!My Boyfriend and Our relationship....?
seems like Love doesn't live there anymore, you should leave him alone
Dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wow this sounds like me and my ex to a t. Dang. It made me flash back and about cry. I know exactly what you are going though and what I am about to say is not going to be fun to read but Im telling you its probably what is best for the 2 of you. You should probably split up. You want more out of the relationship than he does and its only going to get worse. My ex and I are both 25 and did what you are doing for over 2 years when we finally ended it. He said he still loved me and did want us to work out but we were both miserable. And then he got another girlfriend 2 weeks after we broke up. But then he got mad at me when I started dating someone else. Please do it for yourself. It will probably hurt really bad, but it is for the better. It took me more than 3 months to stop crying (even though I had a new boyfriend it still hurt) but I grew from it and I am much happier without him. And my new boyfriend makes me feel like I am the most important person in the world and does everything he can to make and keep me happy. I don't know you but I know you deserve better.