Your sister / friend is going out with someone you really dislike? How do you accept it?

My sister lives with her boyfriend of 4 years. ( im still at home with my Mum, Dad and My Brother)





They only live a few streets away but making time to see her is hard because of the way her boyfriend acts.





Okay im probably going to sound like a bit-ch here but this is the truth and im not exaggerating....








He is the kind of person who has to have his own way and be the centre of attention. If that doesn't happen he'll just whip out his I Phone and play on it, ignoring everybody else's existence. Which i think is painfully rude especially at family gatherings.


He boasts about what he's done and he's the Smart - *** type who has to be right about everything and it seems to make him feel good about himself by putting other people down in the process.





He talks down to people as though they are thick and he has a rather short temper. Not in a violent way but he can be quite scary sometimes.


I swear he has the male equivalent of PMS!





For while i felt it was me that was the reason why he acts this way but having spoken to other people (family, Friends) Ive' learnt that he's like this with most people.





But i still cant help but take it personally and i try to get along with him or even just around him but either way it's just impossible!





My sister and i used to be really close when we were younger and it now seems like she's being taken away from me.


She even acts like a totally different person most of the time.





(anyone who's had a sibling or best friend go out with someone you diddn't get on with will know how this feels)





I know the simplest solution would be ';Avoid Him'; or ';Hang out with Your Sister when hes not there'; (which i do occasionally)


But its kind of hard to avoid him as they come round to the house together quite frequently ( i usually retreat into another room of the house)


The worst thing is, it looks 99% certain that he will one day be my brother in law!


*Shudder!





Its like history repeating its self - My Mum has the same dislike towards her Brothers wife.





I really don't know what my sister sees in him.





Im SO sorry to go on!





But im just interested to hear from anyone who's had this same thing happen between them and a friend or sibling and how did or do you deal with it?


Or what's the best way to go about accepting it?





Thanks!Your sister / friend is going out with someone you really dislike? How do you accept it?
Do NOT apologise for %26gt; Im SO sorry to go on! %26lt;.





Your feelings are real, about Him, his behaviour and about the loss or lessening of relationship with your sister, and you have every right to take up space here to get it told.





Personally, it might help if you tried to talk with your sister about the situation as you see and experience it. On the other hand, it might not help at all ....seemingly putting her neatly between her family and the guy she has (supposedly) feelings for. Not a good or an easy situation to be in.





Sorry, I wish I could offer you more.


Sash.Your sister / friend is going out with someone you really dislike? How do you accept it?
Girl i feel you, but you have to just let HER realise herself and eventually she will leave him cos of his acts. Till then you should just be there for her and be happy for her. Hold tight
Just mind your own business I guess.


When it all falls down and the relationship is ruined shes going to want to cry on your shoulder.
The most heartbreaking part of my life is that my sister doesnt think my bf is good enough. I dont even know why! atleast you have reasons. Don't let it show to your sister. this will upset her and most liekly push her away from you.


As for ';shudder'; at him being your brother in law....imagine the smile on HER face when it happens. Stop thinking of yourself and think about her happiness. It doesnt sound to me like he treats her badly.
Sorry too long to read it all but your sister likes him and wants to be with him so she is. You have to respect that and yeah I know how it is but don't interfere as she will probably take his side not yours. Just nod and smile, that is all you can do
The problem is she is probably in love with him and even though he doesn't treat others that well I imagine he is nice to her. You could approach her about it and give examples of why you feel the way you do but this could drive a wedge between you and your sister, its up to you if you take that risk. Otherwise its a case of grin and bare it I think. I think most people would gripe about their friend and sister boyfriends a bit when they are not there. Though this guy does sound worse then adverage.